I guess it depends on how much you like them, it could be anything from advice for something they did wrong or right while raising you to a simple “bye” or maybe nothing at all…
I have said goodbye to my parents, we cried, but I’m not going to to that again. Because of them I’m still alive and failed 3 suicide attempts. They put me on psych ward 2 times and didn’t care that I was suffering a lot when I was there. They didn’t even tell me they were gona send me there,they did it on my back and bethrayed me. They said I should open and talk to them, but when I did they turned their heads away and change subject, because they don’t know what to say. So why would they think that they’re useful , and keep punishing me? I lost my thrust on them, they are liars and false like animals. I’m not saying goodbye to them.
I don’t know. That’s a question that I don’t think I really can answer.
I do know that I would want them to know that I forgive them for all the mistakes they made, and that they aren’t at fault for my decision at all. And I would want to thank them for all of the precious memories, and support, and inspiration that they’ve given me. And that I’m sorry. I’m sorry for failing them and for leaving them and for breaking their hearts. That’s what I would want them to know.
You just don’t. If you have something to say to them say it out of a goodbye context, like during some boring afternoon you casually spend together.
But you never do that, you just leave. Else you would make them suspicious.
Lol ok, if it is a letter then I guess it depends, I am not a parent, but you must repeat a thousand times that they were not responsible for what happened (and even so they won’t belive it) so that’s the first and the last thing you must write (if you think is truth, or even if you don’t ). I would recall some special moment and then would thank them for it and for all the good things they did. You must tell them you love them and maybe mention something special about eachone of them, like their smile or their voice, or a gesture and how you admired it since you were a little kid.
Then I would explain that I was feeling so sick that I really thought this was the only way out. I would tell them how I fight it and let them see it wasn’t a decision I took to punish them or to hurt myself but that I do it to finally rest, because I was getting so crazy that I couldn’t bear to breath because it just made it all worst. And how confused I was. (The more you explain about the need to do it, the better)
Anyway it is never going to be an easy thing for them. I know my mom would never recover from it (she says so continuously), and that my father would never forgive me for even trying (he haven’t)
I think those are the main points.
But I have a relatively good relationship with them (we don’t talk much anymore) so… i dont know your case.
the longer the letter the better, I know my family always look for explanations, so the more you tell them, the better. They are going to read it several times.
But anyhow it’s not going to make it any easier for them, just a little more understandable.
By the way, I hope you can find another exit to whatever you are feeling, I ‘ve come to the desition suicide is one of the hardest paths for you and those around you, this is why I am thinking it so much this time. And why I am talking so much to a lot of strangers and looking for whoever to keep me distracted…. maybe time will give us some answers idk
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I guess it depends on how much you like them, it could be anything from advice for something they did wrong or right while raising you to a simple “bye” or maybe nothing at all…
Let’s hear all of them.
I have said goodbye to my parents, we cried, but I’m not going to to that again. Because of them I’m still alive and failed 3 suicide attempts. They put me on psych ward 2 times and didn’t care that I was suffering a lot when I was there. They didn’t even tell me they were gona send me there,they did it on my back and bethrayed me. They said I should open and talk to them, but when I did they turned their heads away and change subject, because they don’t know what to say. So why would they think that they’re useful , and keep punishing me? I lost my thrust on them, they are liars and false like animals. I’m not saying goodbye to them.
I would say fuck you goodbye hope you enjoy my nephew cause I’m going to start a life and you’re not going to be apart of it
I don’t know. That’s a question that I don’t think I really can answer.
I do know that I would want them to know that I forgive them for all the mistakes they made, and that they aren’t at fault for my decision at all. And I would want to thank them for all of the precious memories, and support, and inspiration that they’ve given me. And that I’m sorry. I’m sorry for failing them and for leaving them and for breaking their hearts. That’s what I would want them to know.
You just don’t. If you have something to say to them say it out of a goodbye context, like during some boring afternoon you casually spend together.
But you never do that, you just leave. Else you would make them suspicious.
I mean if you would write a letter to them. Of course you don’t say good bye literally, they would abort your mission.
Lol ok, if it is a letter then I guess it depends, I am not a parent, but you must repeat a thousand times that they were not responsible for what happened (and even so they won’t belive it) so that’s the first and the last thing you must write (if you think is truth, or even if you don’t ). I would recall some special moment and then would thank them for it and for all the good things they did. You must tell them you love them and maybe mention something special about eachone of them, like their smile or their voice, or a gesture and how you admired it since you were a little kid.
Then I would explain that I was feeling so sick that I really thought this was the only way out. I would tell them how I fight it and let them see it wasn’t a decision I took to punish them or to hurt myself but that I do it to finally rest, because I was getting so crazy that I couldn’t bear to breath because it just made it all worst. And how confused I was. (The more you explain about the need to do it, the better)
Anyway it is never going to be an easy thing for them. I know my mom would never recover from it (she says so continuously), and that my father would never forgive me for even trying (he haven’t)
I think those are the main points.
But I have a relatively good relationship with them (we don’t talk much anymore) so… i dont know your case.
the longer the letter the better, I know my family always look for explanations, so the more you tell them, the better. They are going to read it several times.
But anyhow it’s not going to make it any easier for them, just a little more understandable.
By the way, I hope you can find another exit to whatever you are feeling, I ‘ve come to the desition suicide is one of the hardest paths for you and those around you, this is why I am thinking it so much this time. And why I am talking so much to a lot of strangers and looking for whoever to keep me distracted…. maybe time will give us some answers idk
Already did. Smell ya later. …when I was 18.
i wouldn’t.