If you are already on an anti-depressant and an anti-anxiety medication, after a life time of struggle and suicidal ideation; and going through a hard time, running out of money and unable to get a job; how do you feel when a friend tells you that you worry too much, then recommends an essential oil calming combination?
SCREAM!!
Thank you for listening. I just had to get that out. I should have learned by now that those who haven’t been there will never understand. Repeating a hundred ‘la la’s, while sitting in a lotus position just doesn’t pay the electric bill.
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Well one thing I am starting to see is that I repress my anger and I don’t allow myself not just to feel it but I also deny there is a reason to feel it.
But if there was something that should have made me feel it is precisely that, noticing that people may read about it, hear about it, and yet wont understand it. But this week when I talked about it to someone that should had been more understanding about it, she was just completely ignorant and that filled me with a sense of impotence and of sadness …
So yes… they will never understand. They may feel down sometimes and then fine again and believe they know what this whole thing is about.
But even some people that have felt it, when they get to feel better do also deny what they went through… it is difficult to find a helping hand when even that happens.
Thanks for listening and responding, allowing me my silent scream that someone heard.
I may go through times when I, myself, do not feel ‘it,’ but I have never forgotten what it feels like.
I believe we are more sensitive and aware than most.
I ‘heard’ your SCREAM and I just woke up.
When I encounter someone who doesn’t ‘get it’, I’m a firm believer in not stuffing emotions. Screaming out, even to the silent night, helps lift the frustration somewhat.
As I’ve gotten older and wiser, I have found that startling the offensive person with a snappy response works wonders for the soul. I directly confront the insensitive ‘friend’. Ha! I have less friends now, but I feel more peace.
Having said all of that, I am a fan of essential oils and holistic helpful hints. When I am majorly anxious, I take a long whiff of peppermint oil. And then I take another long slow whiff of the phenomenal scent; and another. I’m then calmer. Even if my finances aren’t in any better shape after inhaling the aroma of essential oils, I feel less anxiety.
I put a few drops of peppermint oil in my hot tea water and inhale, before adding the tea bags. Yes, the jolt does give the mind a few moments of rest. 🙂
Essential oil calming combination? LOL. If I were I guy I’d know how to use that for some calming combination. Or mix it with tequila. Yeah tequila Just the thing for a calming essential oil combination on the rocks.
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I don’t see Tequila on there. Is it a subheading under Tranquility?
Hi Vedura.
You don’t know me. And I just noticed your post. I don’t know you. It seems that you are one of the few people on this site that is older than me. Congratulations for surviving (I guess). Haha!
Anyway, my name is Jack. Nice to make your acquaintance. I’m posting here for a number of reasons. 1) I don’t know your email address; 2) there’s no messaging program on this website, so I have to make this public.
Well, let me offer you some advice on getting published (I was a novelist for over 20 years and had 15 books published on both sides of the Atlantic): You might want to try reaching out to the Hemlock Society. They are a national right-to-die organization that was founded in 1980 by author and activist Derek Humphry. His book, Final Exit, was published through them.
Considering that “Final Exit” has been translated into 12 languages and is banned by law ONLY in France, considering that in 2014 it remained in print in English in its 3rd edition; considering that in 1991 it was on the New York Times bestseller list for 18 weeks; considering that in April 2007, the editors and book critics of the American national newspaper ,USA TODAY, selected it as one of the 25 most memorable books of the last quarter century, I wouldn’t think that suicide is a taboo subject at all. In fact, “Final Exit” has even been made into a VHS video (2000) and a DVD (2006), both of which are available through ERGO. Also, ethicist Peter Singer included the book in a list of his top ten books in The Guardian.
Armed with this information, just do some research on right-to-die publishers. You might want to start with the World Federation of Right to Die Societies. Anyway, I wish you luck in getting published.
With that being said, trust me, getting published is easy; earning a living from the literary industry is a different story.
As far as your anti-depressant / anti-anxiety medication post, I feel for you. Furthermore, I detest the medical industry, as well as drug usage; so I’ve never been under a doctor’s care, nor have I taken meds. Your comment and silent scream about using essential oils as a calming agent made me laugh. However, I have used the herbal complex, Kava Kava Root, Valerian, and Passion Flower, with some degree of success.
And as far as repeating a hundred la la’s while sitting in a lotus position not paying the electric bill, I have to ask: Are financial problems the source of your suicidal depression? If so, you might want to check out Mark Boyle’s awesome book, The Moneyless Manifesto. It might just change your life. I know it did mine!
Yes, you are 100% correct: People who haven’t been where we are will never understand. So why even try to make them understand? I used to try; but I don’t anymore.
Like yourself, I know what it’s like to be smart, talented ,and different; I know what it’s like not to fit in anywhere in this mess that we call civilized human society. I know what it’s like to lose interest in everything. So, in a way, I feel we’re kindred spirits.
Yes, I agree; people like us should support each other; we’re not like other people… nonetheless, we DO deserve to live joyous lives, even if that joy is impossible to attain.
On a lighter note, I fount it incredibly funny that you outlived your Therapist. Ironic karma!
Your new friend,
Jack Cotton