I found and have posted this video before. Its helpful but its missing something . Gender specific issues. Being ugly is just different for each gender. So often looking for advice becomes either a) A gender pissing match on which gender has it worse when less then asthetic. B) ugly guys git gurls all the time be more confident Or 2) Man up bro go to the bar and get a thot git moor sweg bro. (I dont even drink) . Neither of these are helpful. Its not just being perpetually dateless. Its the constant cultural reminders of it and how it makes me abnormal. Its also sucks that the shit show that was my online dating experience a few months ago confirmed my feelings about my looks/weight. I actually went on dates something that had never happened. Why because as ive said in aforementioned posts ive lost a lot of weight since i last tried. How can i not believe that losing more will increase the odds. Its not just the dating thing in general. It does something severe to your psyche. You have a constant reminder of an all encompassing inadequacy.
Back to the point. Im not going to ever be anyones dream guy. How do i get enough confidence to accept where i am? Does anyone have any helpful articles that have helped them accept the fact that their physically less than desirable. I also dont doormating yourself into being liked (often referred to making up for yourself with other qualities) helps. Why because then you are not allowed to be a human being. An attractive person gets more room for error than ugly person. If you’re the ugly nice one you’re not allowed to be angry even when justified etc.
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There’s no advice. It’s the unfairness of the world.
Here’s a YouTube video if you’re interested. You are not what you look like, by Douglas Harding.
I’ll replace the ‘dot’ in youtu(dot)be so it won’t go into moderation forever. Basically he’s saying that he’s never actually seen his own head and if you’re looking at me as ugly or beautiful, well, that’s your problem. Called The Headless Way
https://youtu(dot)be/jcDMJvO6aHU
Well, I guess it’s going into moderation anyway…. https://youtu.be/jcDMJvO6aHU
No words for this post I too suffer from the ugly curse and can only say this gets me depressed seeing the standard of beauty being everywhere and girls going for face but no brains is just ridiculous I should have been born in india and lived a normal life being ugly.
Idk how being born in India would help. I think they are the most beautiful race of women there is.
I was just joking in no place would an ugly person fit in and I guess going for people who only seek your knowledge or friendship instead of your looks is the best way to go.
I remember this post, I remember enjoying this video quite a lot…. I still don’t consider that person to be ugly, I actually think that they are quite visually appealing…. Then again I’m a bit weird. I also am fairly ugly, and yes I do feel like I would be treated much better if I wasn’t ugly…. Although I mostly get treated poorly because I have a few feminine features.
I agree i find the girl very attractive myself. Im trying to come with terms with being ugly and its fucking impossible. I hate the idea of accepting permanent loneliness especially because of something that is out of my control.