I truly don’t understand why people would want to have kids anymore. I know, most kids born these days are accidents, but there are still so many people who try so desperately to bring another innocent soul into this world when there are so many things that could go wrong.
Cerebal palsy. Autism. Brain damage. Mental retardation. Heart defects. Missing limbs or appendages. Blindness. Deafness. Behavior problems. ADHD. Depression. Anxiety. The list goes on and on.
I once saw a documentary about a girl who was diagnosed with schizophrenia at 6 years of age. Her parents struggled with her day in and day out. She didn’t know what was real and what wasn’t. If that wasn’t enough, her parents had another kid who ended up being diagnosed with autism and a couple of other things. He exhibited some of the same symptoms as his sister, but they couldn’t exactly say for sure that it was schizophrenia since they couldn’t properly communicate with him because of the autism. On top of that, he would get violent at times and bite himself until he bled. Eventually, the parents’ relationship crumbled, the dad cheated, and the mom ended up single with full custody of two very mentally ill children. I know that those parents loved their kids, but I wonder, if they knew beforehand that their genes just would not mix well, would they have tried harder to not have them? I also wonder how their marriage would’ve turned out without the kids.
If your kid manages to turn out healthy, their life could be cut short by any number of things that are the result of the kind of screwed up world we live in. Drunk driver. Drowning. Or something like what happened in Newtown, Connecticut. Losing a kid must be one of the worst kinds of pain you can experience. I don’t know how not having a kid at all can be worse than losing one you knew and loved.
I told my mom that everything offensive I ever did to her was only the result of her and her darling (ex)husband’s careless attitude toward preventing my conception. Everything I ever did to her, she did to herself. She chose to conceive, keep, and raise me in a horrible world as an imperfect person.
Blaming your kid for all the crap they do to you is like taking a dump on the living room floor and then yelling at the poop pile for smelling up the room and staining the carpet. If you can’t handle poop on the carpet, don’t poop on the carpet. If you can’t handle what kids might do to you, don’t have kids.
Having kids is like playing a Sims game that you can never ever pause. It’s enough to worry about your own life. A couple girls I know recently had babies, and they’re just barely into their 20s. I refuse to ever end up like them. Not in this life. It’s the one thing about my life I can’t complain about. Nobody is dependent on me. Nobody needs me. Not my mother, not my brother, not my friends, and definitely not God. If my prayers are ever answered and I am released, there won’t be any children whose lives are turned upside down because of it.
Ive been taught all my life that children are a blessing. If you cannot handle them, they are anything but. I know for a fact that I would not be able to handle them. I don’t care that I’m not even close to getting married cause the sooner I get married, the sooner I’ll have to worry about birth control. (No way in hell am I gonna risk getting pregnant before I’m married.) Or who knows. Maybe my release will come before I even get the chance to say I do. By my hand, or by another’s. Whatever.
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You bring up some good points. YES, I sometimes wonder why certain people go out and have kids when in fact some of them are not fit to be proper parents and some other people who have kids don’t even want them to begin with. Its really sad… and often a lot of kids are the product of neglect and bad parenting and the kids themselves pay a heavy price and come out dysfunctional. Its really sad. Yes you bring up a point that some people have children because it was a mistake. People in relationships usually get to a point where they are going to have sex and sometimes they wind up getting pregnant when they really did not want to have a child. For me > that is just ignorant because there are ways that people can have a sex life without having children >> its called contraception or birth control. So I personally believe that issues of birth control and contraception needs to be taught more thoroughly in schools.
If they taught the people growing up more about birth control and contraception then there would most likely be less unwanted pregnancies. That is how I view it.
I am with you. I personally have NO INTEREST whatsoever in bringing children into this world. I really dont. I personally dont even think that life is really that good.. and bringing a bunch of kids in the world is just not for me. At least I am aware of that and plan accordingly.
The sad thing in life sometimes… as I have observed in my lifetime is that often > its the WRONG people that go out and have the most kids and the RIGHT people.. who don’t have enough. LOL
that is something I have seen. Often people who are not educated and not fit to be good parents go out and have a bunch while people who are educated and fit to be good parents don’t have enough.
Yes, there are all kinds of problems that can go wrong with having children these days and many people aren’t even aware of them or know how to deal with those problem if they should encounter them. I wish that in school > they would have classes that would better prepare people for parenthood and teach them how to raise children properly as it seems to be a topic that is often neglected
thanks for your post
Thanks! And yeah I feel the same way. It’s always women who cant even afford to have kids that are having 4 or 5 by different fathers and they call every single one of them a “blessing”, that it was God’s will for her to have those kids, even after the dad bailed on her cause he doesn’t have to carry the kid for 9 months. Nobody even has to know the kid is his. Do you really think that God would want the kid to grow up in the kind of environment you’re living in? No, you are having that kid because you paid no attention in sex ed, and perhaps you thought you couldn’t possibly get pregnant if you had sex with the guy only once. Sure, God created the means by which we can have children, but he doesn’t directly cause every single child’s birth, nor does he care if we choose to wait to have children or if we have them at all. The smart thing to do is to evaluate your own personal circumstances and decide if it’s practical to bring a child into your life. If not, there are so many ways to prevent pregnancy. Leave the child bearing to those that can actually take care of them.
I feel the same & I agree totally.
If u stop & think before get pregnant /having kids u’ll never get pregnant/having kids.
I think bring kids to this world and to this life is pure cruelty.