I would really like to know this…. I feel like a large reason why I’m not good at a decent number of things that I do is because I just lack self-esteem…. Like even lots of practice with skills doesn’t remove this, like what more can I do to gain confidence? I feel that it would help me out quite a bit if I could figure this out.
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The reason you’re not good at a number of things is because you haven’t figured out yet what you’re good at. Figure out maybe you’re best at just one thing and that can take you far ! Just trying to pass an opinion to think about if it appeals 🙂 You write well.. why don’t you write and publish something in future? We sad souls write very well I have experienced 🙂 Have a good day ahead 🙂
I hate people reading anything I write because I hate my own writing…. Probably mostly because I grew up constantly having the adults in my life tell me that I was bad at writing and anything related to language arts…. Now after taking a few aptitude tests I find that apparently language is one of the things I’m best at -_- It’s confusing…. Nothing that I am innately skilled at really can take me that far, they aren’t useful skills really.
Ohh okay. But why did you believe those elders. Why don’t you believe us here? Tried cooking maybe ?
Because it was all of my life…. Is hard when you’re like 8 and your mother tells you that you will never be good at reading and will always fail your ELA classes.-_- I know this is not true at this stage in my life, but I still feel them to be true.
I’m average at cooking
Well my mother always told me i would be good at nothing. Iam good at many things. I saw it was her who wasnt good at anything and since she couldnt fix that she put it on me. I tried cooking and succeeded. I also tried writing and showed it to people who would motivate me and right.. they liked it.
And anyways writers dont want anyone to like what they write. Because its so real and out from their hearts that the opinions of people cannot stop such an artistic expression of self. There is no one to please. We may write as we please. There are many who wont like it many who will pay for buying it and recommend others too you know..?
I’m not sure I would call myself a writer though really, like the “poems” I write really aren’t exactly poems…. They are close but whatever…. -_- I present them on here as poems just because that’s the easiest way to present them to others currently. :/
practice makes perfect and learning how to wing it, i give speeches all the time 90% of the time i have no idea WTF I’m going to say, but i gained confidence at winging it! they usually ask me something anyways that i’m not prepared to talk about, so all the planning goes right down the drain anyways 🙂
Speeches I love giving speeches…. And I’ve been told by many that I’m very good at public speaking, which is really weird because I am not a fan of people, I hate large crowds, I hate small groups, and people scare me…. I’m really shy and quiet, and it surprises people when I get in front of a large group of people and start to speak, I am louder than most people get, my flow of thought is great, and I can grab attention very well. And I also normally don’t write my speeches either I tend to just have an outline of talking points and wing it from there…. It is weird as speaking to a group of people doesn’t even feel like speaking to anybody, it simply just feels like one of the many monologues I have when I’m alone, it just so happens to be in front of other people…. They just vanish in my mind and I’m in my own little world…. Fielding questions is a bit hard for me as I have to take a moment to get back into my own little world then change the topic to be able to answer their question -_- Either way I love it…. Same with performance arts, I just sort of curl up and forget about everything else for a little bit, used to be a great feeling in my school’s orchestra when we got to perform ^_^ But I do have to have a bit of proficiency with whatever I’m doing though to be able to fall into that state, like I would not be able to do that with dancing for example…. :/
Practice only gets you so far if you don’t believe in what you’re doing. I remember hitting a big wallbrick on what i used to do only because of my constant doubting of my abilities. The only thing i could do to overcome that was realizing that i had nothing to lose in keep trying, but i had lots to lose if i would have given up then (even if it was just things valuable to me and no one else).
There’s also the fact that the more you practice, the more you realize what you’re lacking, so it’s a double edged sword. Nike might come after my head, but the idea is: if you like what you’re doing, just do it. If that doesn’t work? heck, there’s always someone doing stuff worse than you, wishing to be at level you are. It’s not about how good we get in comparison to others, but about steadily moving forward with our abilities (imho).
And yeah, i’ll stop, i’m starting to sound like a disney movie, so before i break into an awkward song i’ll stop, haha.
Don’t worry I’ll break into the awkward song with you ^_^
Yeah I have a few things that I kind of hit that point with, I feel like I am fairly decent at them…. But the only thing is that I do them just so shyly, because I doubt my abilities so I am very like careful and timid with them…. Which doesn’t help especially not with certain things. Like one of the things I enjoy doing I have been trying to work up the courage to show off to my friend just to get some more opinions so I could move forward, but it’s just so scary -_- I know I will mostly just fall flat on my face like a coin -_- And yeah I do want to be the best at some things I do, and I become very happy with progress forward as it makes me closer to being the best…. It’s normally when that progress stops that things get a little bit bad. :/
Thanks BTW ^_^ (that’s aimed at everyone also, I forget to say that too often)
Maybe closer to a Studio Ghibli film; then least you’d be able to sing in Japanese
But I don’t know Japanese :O I could probably do Spanish, but not Japanese -_-
I couldn’t sing with them then 🙁 and that’d just be sad