I don’t think depression ever goes away. I think you just put it in remission, but you always have to expect those relapses. Once you have been depressed it is just so much easier to slip back into a depressed state. You just have to be cognizant of that and try to manage it the best you can. It is a life long battle.
I agree. Once you cross that bridge I think there is not turning back. But there will be good times in your life and hoping they are much more than the bad times.
Yes, and no. It’s something minor… which is scary as hell because if something so minor can trigger my depression, what hope is there for me in the future?
Fine, I’m just going to say it… this is SO embarrassing, but whatever…
Okay, so anyone that followed my posts before knew what a devastating breakup I had with my ex. And how I went on and on and on and on… like a crazy person about it.
Anyway, after 3 months of no contact, he texts me out of the blue. I know that’s stupid and that shouldn’t trigger my depression, but it did. I just want to forget about him and I want him to forget about me.
Yea I think I remember reading a couple of your posts, your ex wanted to stay friends after. Obviously that didn’t work for you. That doesn’t usually work very well for anyone.
Have you told him how you feel? That you would rather have no contact? That you just want to move on. If he doesn’t respect that you could block his number.
For the text to effect you so much you must have some unresolved issues and emotions. You said it was a devastating breakup, you just haven’t gotten over it. Maybe at some point you need to deal with those feelings. If you aren’t ready to do that though then yea no contact would be best.
We ended things with a “maybe later”… and lots of unresolved issues. He basically just refused to talk about any of it. But I cannot be friends with him. It’s either we have to be together or not even know each other because anything else just drives me crazy. I think I do need to tell him this and then block him.
It sucks when it comes to that, but you have to take care of yourself first. Your own psychological well being. Hopefully he can respect your feelings on it.
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I don’t think depression ever goes away. I think you just put it in remission, but you always have to expect those relapses. Once you have been depressed it is just so much easier to slip back into a depressed state. You just have to be cognizant of that and try to manage it the best you can. It is a life long battle.
I agree. Once you cross that bridge I think there is not turning back. But there will be good times in your life and hoping they are much more than the bad times.
I’m feeling much the same way… ive been here for over a month. I’ve tried everything I can think of to not do it and nothings working…
Claritee, what do you think has changed in your life to make you snap back into depression?
have there been any big changes in your life to spark it?
Yes, and no. It’s something minor… which is scary as hell because if something so minor can trigger my depression, what hope is there for me in the future?
Fine, I’m just going to say it… this is SO embarrassing, but whatever…
Okay, so anyone that followed my posts before knew what a devastating breakup I had with my ex. And how I went on and on and on and on… like a crazy person about it.
Anyway, after 3 months of no contact, he texts me out of the blue. I know that’s stupid and that shouldn’t trigger my depression, but it did. I just want to forget about him and I want him to forget about me.
Yea I think I remember reading a couple of your posts, your ex wanted to stay friends after. Obviously that didn’t work for you. That doesn’t usually work very well for anyone.
Have you told him how you feel? That you would rather have no contact? That you just want to move on. If he doesn’t respect that you could block his number.
For the text to effect you so much you must have some unresolved issues and emotions. You said it was a devastating breakup, you just haven’t gotten over it. Maybe at some point you need to deal with those feelings. If you aren’t ready to do that though then yea no contact would be best.
We ended things with a “maybe later”… and lots of unresolved issues. He basically just refused to talk about any of it. But I cannot be friends with him. It’s either we have to be together or not even know each other because anything else just drives me crazy. I think I do need to tell him this and then block him.
It sucks when it comes to that, but you have to take care of yourself first. Your own psychological well being. Hopefully he can respect your feelings on it.