I don’t have a big list about all the things that embarrass me, in fact there is no such list, it’s all about one thing, one person precisely, my father..
So I have a schizophrenic uncle, he’s been diagnosed since more than 10 yrs, he’s a good person, the kindest I’ve ever seen, and unless something upsets him he’s fine.. What does that have to do with my father?
A couple of hours ago, my uncle came with his son to visit, just a casual friendly visit, everything was cool and all until my father started eating too much cookies, my mom who was worried about my diabetic father told him to stop consuming too much sugar, of course he didn’t give a damn, he took another cookie and while he was about to eat it, the cookie crumbled..
My father claims he has anger issues, but I’m not really sure about that, I mean he sure can control his temper when he wants to!
When the cookie crumbled, he -as he claimed- got mad, and then he started shouting and as hard as he can he threw the cookie at my uncle’s son as a way to show his anger of the universe standing between him and his cookie!!
Now I don’t know if he meant to hit the boy with the cookie or if it was just random but I’ve been observing this weird thing,, that whenever my uncle is there my father provokes some problem on purpose! And no matter how stupid the problem can be he turns it into a fight with mom..
It can be as stupid as a cookie!!
And I keep wondering why he turns into this angry person around my uncle, while he’s totally normal around others!
Is he trying to cause my uncle a relapse?? It would be really disgusting and scary if he is!
Or maybe because my uncle is weak and he can’t fight back, so it makes my father feel more like a man to shout and play angry in front of him!!
So many questions about his motives, no answers..
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He is feeling insecure. Maybe there was a time when your father looked up to your uncle, and now seing the image of a considerably more feeble man drives him angry. Possibly angry because of previous mistakes, ways he could have helped your uncle but for some reason he chose not to, perhaps it is guilt. Perhaps he is angry at himself but does not know how to accept that so he redirects the feeling to his brother as a twisted way of asking for help. They should have a talk so that together they may be able to come across some sort of redemption. This is my take on what you described
can’t really say? there are a lot of people that try to fix people that have no idea how too! this causes all kinds of problems, you should not be ashamed of something you have no control over.
This reply right here says it all really.
Do you think it really helps? Even if people tell deena1994 to not feel awkward about situations like that, they will still happen, and since it is in her nature to be turned off by certain things she would much rather try to find a solution for these occurrences.