why is it when you feel low and down and ask your friends to meet you up no one meets but yet when they need you to talk to or meet up I’m always there. I’m sick of it being one way traffic all the time. I mean do I need to say please come meet me I feel like shit and I want to self destruct and you need to stop me. Seriously wtf!
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Hey there, I want to let you know that I understand how you feel. That same shit happens to me all the time. And I am just done with those kind of friends, they only talk when they want something from you. But there’s always that someone who actually cares, and you need to find them. It may take some time but you will. And just know I am here if you want to talk.
People are selfish, they use others-that’s pretty much the norm. Actually one trick is to get them interesting in meeting for something they want, like a movie they want to see.
You can never just come out and tell them you’re upset/need to talk-that only works with people you’re already very close with-like family or true best friends. With other people you need to be clever. Perhaps they don’t care to hear about your troubles, but just getting out/socializing can really be good for your mental health-so long as these people are not toxic.
I realized with my friends, they’re more of a party crowd-looking to have fun but not get too personal with problems. Fortunately I do have a few other people I can talk to when times are tough and who are understanding. The key is to get to know a ton of people and from there you can whittle them down to those you can rely on and those you just hang out with.
Don’t get me wrong, I know how you feel. I’m also the dependable type, always there for others even if they haven’t been there for me. Over time though I became more picky with such people. If I found it was just a one way relationship-they get all the benefits but never reciprocate, I cut them off or barely talked to them. I know have more of a tit-for-tat policy, you’re good to me, I’ll be good to you, if you fuck me over I’ll do it twice as hard. Shitty people deserve what they get.
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sorry but that’s how most people are irs sad I know