Almost 7 months is an amazing achievement and something to be proud of.
A minor intermission when considering your accomplishment is nothing but a temporary hiccup and not worth dwelling on in the overall journey. You’ve made it to almost 7 months, it is possible and can be achieved again, although yeah, I get how hard it can be and the determination and strength it required.
Now you’ve even more insight and can recognise a potential trigger in the future. I’m rooting for you.
^ This is pure wisdom. Setbacks are normal. I’ll try to find the video if I can. But there’s a very smart lady who has a TED talk about this exact issue. She was referring to messing up on a diet and other long-term goals. But the principle is the same.
Hey, I wish I could hit seven months. If anything you just set a benchmark for me to strive for. Starting today, I’m going to shoot for seven months to see if I can do it.
As for taking the mess out of the world can I share a story? (I don’t know if that’s allowed. Delete this if it’s not.)
I knew this family in South Africa who emigrated from Zimbabwe which is far more impoverished than South Africa. The mother and father were the direct relatives of a chief of their tribe in Zim. However, even being the chief doesn’t make it easy to live in that country. On top of this, they had a daughter who had cerebral palsy. Her name is Veronica.
I was feeling a lot like the title of your post when I met this family.
In South Africa they had better access to medicine but it still wasn’t the quality that you’d want to take care of a little girl like her. She was constantly in pain for years. She couldn’t stop crying most nights. Her mom would lay down with her and cry all night together some nights.
I remember carelessly asking what it had been like to try to raise a child with so many physical disabilities. To which her father told me, “People are unlike anything else. It is sad that to some, people see people as burdens or problems. But a problem can’t smile, and a problem can’t cry. A burden can’t have dreams. And a burden can’t make a father happy. In my family, I’ve never wanted to give up on my child. Because she is not a problem. My child is a person.”
You’re not a mess. You’re not a burden. And you’re not a problem. You’re a person. Don’t take a person away from us. People can get better.
I will say that I think it sucks that it seems like all the compassionate and good people who are suffering are separated by all the geography that makes up the world. But how lucky are we that simultaneously, we can communicate and help each other and offer our kindness across the great face of the earth? I think that’s awesome.
I’m glad that you shared though.
Again, I’m following your example and I’m personally going to shoot for seven months. Way to go!
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Almost 7 months is an amazing achievement and something to be proud of.
A minor intermission when considering your accomplishment is nothing but a temporary hiccup and not worth dwelling on in the overall journey. You’ve made it to almost 7 months, it is possible and can be achieved again, although yeah, I get how hard it can be and the determination and strength it required.
Now you’ve even more insight and can recognise a potential trigger in the future. I’m rooting for you.
^ This is pure wisdom. Setbacks are normal. I’ll try to find the video if I can. But there’s a very smart lady who has a TED talk about this exact issue. She was referring to messing up on a diet and other long-term goals. But the principle is the same.
Hey, I wish I could hit seven months. If anything you just set a benchmark for me to strive for. Starting today, I’m going to shoot for seven months to see if I can do it.
As for taking the mess out of the world can I share a story? (I don’t know if that’s allowed. Delete this if it’s not.)
I knew this family in South Africa who emigrated from Zimbabwe which is far more impoverished than South Africa. The mother and father were the direct relatives of a chief of their tribe in Zim. However, even being the chief doesn’t make it easy to live in that country. On top of this, they had a daughter who had cerebral palsy. Her name is Veronica.
I was feeling a lot like the title of your post when I met this family.
In South Africa they had better access to medicine but it still wasn’t the quality that you’d want to take care of a little girl like her. She was constantly in pain for years. She couldn’t stop crying most nights. Her mom would lay down with her and cry all night together some nights.
I remember carelessly asking what it had been like to try to raise a child with so many physical disabilities. To which her father told me, “People are unlike anything else. It is sad that to some, people see people as burdens or problems. But a problem can’t smile, and a problem can’t cry. A burden can’t have dreams. And a burden can’t make a father happy. In my family, I’ve never wanted to give up on my child. Because she is not a problem. My child is a person.”
You’re not a mess. You’re not a burden. And you’re not a problem. You’re a person. Don’t take a person away from us. People can get better.
I will say that I think it sucks that it seems like all the compassionate and good people who are suffering are separated by all the geography that makes up the world. But how lucky are we that simultaneously, we can communicate and help each other and offer our kindness across the great face of the earth? I think that’s awesome.
I’m glad that you shared though.
Again, I’m following your example and I’m personally going to shoot for seven months. Way to go!