My best friend tried to kill herself by jumping out from a three story high building today. She has been depressed for a long time. But me and my friends finally convinced her to not kill herself. She said if she die, everything will be the same. So we told her what will be changed if she’s gone. I still got the feeling that she would try it again because before today’s attempt, she once failed.
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The argument that everything will be changed (fucked up) after you kill yourself is a logical one from the perspective of those left alive. But when dealing with someone who plans to be dead, you have to try to see things from the perspective that says once the deed is done, all problems vanish forever.
That is very hard to argue with. I would even go further and say that if you tell a suicidal person that their act will ruin the lives of loved ones around them, then that guilt may even push them stronger toward suicide. Because suicide is often the culmination of stress, guilt, responsibility, and other overbearing issues that crush a person’s will to live.
So my suggestion, if you want to talk someone out of committing suicide, is to focus on the positives of remaining alive. Not the negatives of dying. Because in the mind of the suicidal person, there are no negatives about dying.