If you have people who genuinely love you and care about you, and you them (not talking about people who have complicated love / hate relationships with their families or S.O.), but genuine love and care…does that not fill the hole inside you? Does it not lift the depression?
I’ve never been loved, so I don’t know (gee, I sound like the 40 yo virgin). I always assumed that if I found someone who truly loves and cares about me (and I them), that I wouldn’t be depressed anymore. So…I guess love isn’t an answer after all??
SP’ers- do you have good people who love and care about you, and you them, yet you’re still depressed as hell?
I know people in loveless marriages, where they once truly loved each other, but no longer. They may still care and haven’t divorced, and have lots of problems. I’m not talking about that- talking only about those who still have that deep love.
Is love not enough?
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Hey there darkness,
I have a loving family, not to mention a religious family worldwide, and yet, here I am on a suicide site.
I may not be diagnosed as depressed, but as my therapist said, I show definite signs of it.
I’ve said this a lot, heard it from some smart people. Depression does not care who you are, or what your background is. It can happen to anyone. It’s bad to assume that people with loving families can’t be depressed.. Hell of a lot of shit things happen to a lot of people…
Well, being loved and actually feeling loved are two completely different things.
Yes, I mean being loved AND feeling loved.
This is why I feel awful. I have a very close family and yet I still find myself here. Wish I could change it, sometimes I feel like I’m ungrateful or that I’m being stupid. How can I be like this when there are lovely people around me?!
I guess you could say love isn’t always enough.
Depression comes in all forms, we might not ever know what’s going on for others but whatever it may be, is real and happening. It has brought them here too, regardless of loving families and relationships, unfortunately.
I feel like this hit the nail on the head
If love was enough then drugs would be enough or money would be enough or food would be enough or cutting would be enough or alcohol would be enough.
The only thing that can plug that hole is a resilient positive sense of self. Yes, this means the only thing that can fill the hole inside you is something that can only come from inside you.
One of my reasons for offing myself is to make the lives of the people who love me/who I love better…though I’m still not sure what is worse for them, me alive or me dead. I know what is best for me, but them…I likewise lean towards the former. In the end, neither matters…because suicide isn’t necessarily rationally thought out.
But of course it depends on your situation…for some love helps, for others it hurts…it’s definitely no panacea though.
Depression comes in different forms. Sometimes it’s genetic, physical and chemical imbalance and sometimes situational and reactionary to your environment or traumas…love doesn’t necessarily mean a thing as far as if you suffer from depression or not. So many people here have said they have significant others, good families, but still aren’t happy….so no love is not a fix all for depression….would be great if it was though.
I suppose love helps pull one out from the brink of suicide, but isn’t a complete answer to depression itself. I know for me I wouldn’t be half as depressed if I had someone who understood me and loved me.
Good question I wish I knew because truthfully I’ve never been loved I always loved someone but it never was any help since I wasn’t loved back. If I was loved back I guess I wouldn’t need to feel lonely I wouldn’t be here however being 26 and single for my whole life made this pain permanent. I had a friend but she’s moved on with the Friendship ahh anyways fuck her. If I had love I’d bee saved I wouldn’t care about being broke it would be easier to continue. But that’s something that will never happen. Same goes for my family them to
Hello darkness my old friend
I am very loved and I still don’t feel like being alive. It’s physical in my case, but others withbADHD And depression are not like me. So idk. You have to love yourself. Others cannot do it for you.
When you don’t feel yourself its awfully hard to feel loved. Flipping depression anyhow….there is no logical answer.
Love isn’t enough, for me anyway. I have loving parents, and I have one person that’s not family who claim they love me – their love doesn’t make me feel any better and my constant depression actually affects the relationships.
I guess it’s different for everyone.
Love isn’t enough, love causes pain that can wreck you. Love is surrendering to a person and a person surrendering to you. You have the power to cause so much pain to a person that it’s sickening. But you’re vulnerable, the slightest word can rip you apart. It has it’s good moments when the suns shining and you can’t get that grin from off your face but there’s the darker moments too when nothing is working out.
Love will give you fleeting moments of happiness but in the end that’s not enough. Just my opinion though.
If I were depressed first then found a person to fall in love with .. Sure it would lift the depression .. You would have to hide the depression first of all . That could be a hard one .
Depression killed the love between me and my other half and we were together for 27 years .
Depression is a real mood killer for everybody around it ..
I am in love with my husband and I love my family and they love me to death also, but like See Smith says love isn’t always enough.
Another reason out of many of wanting to go is because I love my husband so much, I want for him a better life. I know he can’t have the life he wanted with me now and so I would rather go so he can move on and hopefully find someone who can offer him what I can’t. I see it like this we only got one life and I don’t want him regretting any of it.