As a lot of you know me I have never had a girlfriend in my life I am 26 hard working, passionate and a friend for everyone. I was recommended to match by some good friends however it didn’t work here are my conversations and results
This girl was one of the few girls who had replied to me out of the 70 girls I messaged and when you see the “Read” it means your comment was already viewed. As you can see this is what she thought and I don’t know how to respond to rejections.
Out of every girl this one was the most nicest and honest even though I was still rejected I wish she finds that guy that she dreams to have a future with from the bottom of my heart. Ok moving on to the girls who chose not to respond 
this was one of the girls that ignored me. As you can see she read my comment on the 20th of Jan and didn’t reply I was pissed so five days later I commented “Never mind FUCK YOU” finally she replies I know it wasn’t nice but it got to me some time after I get this email 
Short time later I tried logging in and 
go figure being single is all that’s good for me
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There is so much wrong with this I don’t know where to start… you need to respect women. Swearing at someone for not replying to you is very immature. I think you should stay away from women. You seem like the abusive type.
if you got rejected by 70 individual people you would be a little salty too, dont try to deny it
I don’t feel he was abusive at all she should have responded that’s rude I’d be pissed too maybe immature but so is flat out ignoring someone
@wanted85 thank you I appreciate that you understand 🙂
I could discuss more about this to explain to you why they rejected you, but I just binged and purged a chocolate cake. I’m exhausted.
Purging makes me more alert and better feeling only I’ve never done a cake but McDonalds Chinese pretty much all the foods i crave that’s bad for me
I seem like the abusive type you say? Hahaha this actually made me laugh just because I swear that doesn’t make me the abusive type. I was frustrated as you can see I wrote in the description that I do not know how to handle rejection s
@NeverMore90 ^ that reply is for you
i hope you find what you’re looking for, but match isn’t the right place to find it, its just a general shithole and i wouldn’t recommend it.
I know tell me about it I noticed alot of the girls are only there just for compliments, like are you really that important to pay a subscription for waste time for a match
Dating sites are so hard. Every guy I met on those were looking for a hook up I’m terrified of trying to get back into the dating world. I know you probably hear it a lot but you will find someone who you deserve to be with someone who cares about you but yes trying to start the whole dating thing sucks ass I went out of a 11yr hell relationship to actually going and trying to find a decent guy online and it took a year and a half before i found a decent one but even he turned out not to be able to handle my depression. Again dating sucks but so does being lonely all the time. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this . I hope things workout and you find a good girl for you.
screw hookups and dating, how about we just love everyone because god knows we need love.
100% agree we do need more love but I want a love that helps me not be lonely I hate being lonely it’s the worst which is why most thrive to try and date. And hookups are over rated and dumb went thru that stage not worth it.
I’m sorry Sadlife you didn’t deserve that
It’s crazy
The girls were stupid including the one that told you that she was looking for settling down or something when you just asked her to meet for coffee she was ready to get married. Very strange. Very very strange people.
I’m really sorry
That’s not strange at all, that’s being efficient. You have to understand that women often receive offers from hundreds of guys on these sites. How could they possibly have time to go out with all of them, and why would they want to, if they’re looking for ONE serious boyfriend?
Being rude isn’t nice though, no one should be disrespectful towards strangers like that (both the men and women).
Girls don’t like guys who come across as clingy, self-absorbed, insecure and/or demanding.
You have to be a listener. Even if everything they say is boring, you must feign interest. That’s Rule #1. Remember: Everyone’s favorite topic of conversation is themselves.
2# Most girls don’t care about the tricks you can perform on a bicycle. Seriously, your bank account balance would impress them more.
3# The rest of your conversation/ screen shots has been deleted so I can’t remember what else I was gonna write. Dammit. Why’d you do that?
Eh, good luck.
If you have to “feign interest” then you probably shouldn’t be talking to the other person in the first place. People like a balanced conversation where both parties seem engaged. If they know you’re not interested in what they’re saying, they’ll move on and find someone else. (It’s okay to be bored sometimes, but you shouldn’t be apathetic towards EVERYTHING the other person says.)
That dating website is, as you know, for people that want to be in a serious relationship. You have to have a good profile picture that shows that you are mature and down to earth. Don’t talk about bike tricks, that’s immature. In your profile make sure to add a short paragraph about your aspirations, career goals, family goals, etc. I met my husband on a dating site. He and I dated for a year and then we got married. Females know just by looking at you and talking to you what kind of person you are. I can give you an example of a good profile picture: Wear either a sweater or a dress shirt. Take the picture outside at a nice scenery. Just pose naturally and smile.
Sorry, but from what I can see… You were in the wrong. There was no need to leave such a rude message for just being ignored on a dating service. Honestly the best action would be to ignore it and move on. I’m sure she reported you and it lead to your ban, as it violated their terms. Should’ve you controlled yourself. You wouldn’t be banned. I’m just gonna say it was fair. I wouldn’t get fired up over it though. I never believed in dating services anyway.
It wasn’t fair I had the account for 5 days and I paid the 3 month subscription package for $75 and when match terminated my account they told me that I wouldn’t be issued a refund. Match costs $40 a month so no it wasn’t completely fair and as you saw my reply to the other girl was nice and sweet even though she rejected me. And IDK about you but if you but I’m lonely 24/7 so ummm it’s just natural to respond that way.
Wow, it doesn’t seem fair that you’re not receiving a refund after they’ve terminated the service.
Has it been 14 days since you paid for the package? I found this on their website.
“WHAT ARE THE TERMS AND CONDITIONS FOR REFUNDS?
You have a 14-day cooling-off period after making a purchase on the site or app. To claim this, please contact Customer Service who will guide you through the refund process.
Please be aware that refunds can only be made for purchases of first-time subscriptions and extras. No refunds will be given for renewals or the purchase of Boosts.
We are unable to offer refunds beyond the initial 14 days. If this is the case case, we’re here to help you make the most of your subscription by taking full advantage of the service features.
If you do not want to continue using the site beyond your current subscription purchase, please remember to cancel the automatic renewal in the ‘My account settings’ section so that you are not renewed. ”
So basically, you are entitled to a refund if all of these are true for you
1. This is your first time purchasing a subscription from them
2. It has been less than 14 days since you purchased the subscription
3. The money you paid didn’t include “boosts” and/or “renewals” (whatever they are)
From what you said, I think you should be eligible for a refund if you can still access your account and contact customer services that way. ($75 is an awful lot to me so I’m getting all worked up over this :D)
I know being lonely can be a heartbreaking thing but it’s not an excuse to lash out at another human being whom you don’t even know. You know, just like the trolls who randomly put “F*** YOU” on SP’s search result page. It makes no sense to the viewer but says a lot about the person who put it there.
$75 for… Wow. That is so not worth it. even the $40. But hey, that is Match.com for you. I agree with Redandpurple about the refund thing. But they don’t mention anything about if refund applies if you’ve violated their terms of service. It is something you should know before buying a subscription. But it does kinda suck to waste $75.
Lashing out maybe is natural for you. But you have to consider the other persons point of view. They don’t know you’re lonely to this state and it’s not even their responsibility. There is no need to be disrespectful regardless. Just think about it. How would you feel if a very lonely girl (without you knowing she is) messaged you, and you ignored it. A few days later she say ‘Fuck you!’ to you. It wouldn’t be a very nice message to read when you’re going about your day. And like nepheliad mentioned. They receive messages from hundreds of guys. It’s simply understandable they would look at your message, not be interested and move on. Like who_even_cares says. I would suggest to stay way from dating sites. Rarely any good comes out from it.
Thank You RedAndPurple I’m emailing them for the 3rd time because the day my account was terminated I email them one of the most harsh emails that I could possibly send since I felt robbed I am broke today. I copied and pasted this from a message that I left someone and about girls if I fell for someone not only would she have the power to destroy me but she would have every trust every love that I can possibly offer it would be hers however the rest would be up to hers if she would give the same back to me. I’m not saying I’m a wuss but I’m inexperienced on these things since I just follow my heart.
aawww sadlife, ive watched ur posts of late. ive wanted to comment on each one but haven’t.
ur desperation is palpable. girls arent impressed by bike tricks or how fast ur car goes.. they want real. honesty. all i can say about u so far is that ur a plumber who does bike tricks and used to drive a bmw… or whatever it was. be yourself. ur a handsome guy, & the girl who ends up with u will be one lucky lady.
i hope this reply doesn’t come off as mean, im just been honest. be urself, cause no one else can do that as well as you can. get out there and be real, u will find ur sleepy beauty…. eventually
Awe thank you Soco I’m glad to meet you 🙂 I’m just frustrated which was the reasons for that reply to the girl who ignored me I knew that not everyone everyone here would agree with me but as you see I am sadlife fighting my sadness and loneliness so when I have to face the truth about I can get angry. To be honest I’m quite glad I was ignored why do I seek a girl when I’m having serious difficulties like loneliness you know. Maybe I should first clear my problems here and than look for a girl. You know I really have a good heart it’s just here I was soo fustraited my account on match was only 5 days old I paid a $75 3 subscription and when my account was terminated match told me that they will give me no refunds ahhh I don’t care I move on I know my reasons are justified
I’m sorry you are feeling this way…
Maybe next time choose a different profile picture? The girls are picking up their first impressions visually like you are.
Thanks Redandpurple maybe I should try eharmony since match is out the way. I really thought that picture was nice that I have hers OK no problem maybe for the next one
EVERYONE THANK YOU FOR THE REPLY BUT I NEVER TALKED ABOUT BIKE TRICKS TO ANY OF THESE GIRLS I JUST HAD A PICTURE IN ONE OF MY PROFILE ALBUMS THAT WAS IT I NEVER SAID “HEY LOOK I CAN DO BIKE TRICKS AND DRIVE FAST”
ANYWAYS I LOVE THE RPLYS FROM YOU ALL EXCEPT FOR THE UNNECESSARY ABUSIVE PART
Match derp com is good for old people and yuppies. I use OkCupid because I have a filter that takes care of the scammers.
Then there’s PoF… The 4chan of dating sites.
When corresponding with suitors on dating sites it is best to pretend you are in church. No cussing. No unruly behavior. Wear your Sunday best. Keep things light. Establish rapport before suggesting coffee. Color within the lines. Don’t fall asleep during the sermon.
The more adept you become, the more rules you can choose to break.
Good try Saddy. Carry as many lessons away from this experience as you can.
Well put. (thumbs up)
No that is not the best on dating sights then you put out a wrong perception of who you are. I was honest and myself and that’s how you match with someone who isn’t gonna clash with you. Like I’d never put my anxiety on a dating sight but I am upfront about my nerdness the fact that I don’t believe in god cause I’d hate to be on a date with someone who is a believer and against Harry Potter. and we clash that way. You just have to be you when it comes to online dating. But I haven’t been out in the dating world for a long time idk maybe things have changed in the past couple years. Pof is what I used. Just cause it was free, for every 30 guys that just wanted a hookup I’d meet 1 who wanted more. It takes a long time to weed out the good from the bad and even when you find a good you never know when they’ll turn bad people suck. @sadlife958 don’t give up there’s a girl out there for you.
I truly hope so and Thank you for your kind reply your very sweet
SeeSmith, you’re a joke.
Context missing. Are you saying I’m humorous or that I’m unworthy of serious consideration? Uh, thank you?
I wouldn’t take a message being ignored personally. I think most women on such sites get far too many messages to respond to each one fully. It seems rude, but a lot of people treat it like a kind of dating marketplace – if you’re not their type, then you’re wasting their time. I think you probably have to treat it similarly, at least until you come across someone on the same wavelength. Maybe think of it like advertising – don’t expect a response, just be happy when you get one.
Also, match seems to be one of the more ‘picky’ sites. I believe I was unable to even create a profile a few years back because my answers indicated too many vulnerabilities (extreme introversion doesn’t go down well!) Maybe look for a site with people a little less judgmental?
“never mind FUCK YOU” is perfection. Also, it is crazy that you were rejected because she didn’t see herself marrying you. Most of the fun is in the dating so that girl is missing out man.
Tinder seems as though it’d work better for you.
Hahhha thank you this was the reply I was hoping to get thanks no matter what people tell me I believe I said it right “never mind FUCK YOU” if that girl or any of those girls not any girl in my life that I tried for if any of them had accepted me I would had given her all the love that I can possibly offer everything would be for her and that’s how I just am if I fell for someone not only would she have the power to destroy me but she would have every trust every love that I can possibly offer it would be hers however the rest would be up to hers if she would give the same to me. I’m not saying I’m a wuss but I’m inexperienced on these things since Im just follow my hear.
Dating site = Target shooting range where your self-esteem is the target.
Apparently, it costs a lot of money to have your self-esteem shot at several times a day 😀
I thought that’s what Snapchat was for and it’s free. And tinder when I was on there I got confidence boosts alll the time and it was free but sometimes I also got mean ones. And then I decided tinder was just for hookups. I’m gonna create a dating site that’s not a dating sight like a friend sight but not normal like nerd friends like gaming or book reading cause I’m socially awkward and can’t go out and meet people in public like normal and I don’t want hook ups I just want someone to chill with and watch me game or let me watch them game cause I get peace by watching other people game too. Haha ok I’m done rambling just random thoughts that have popped in my head after reading all this
Hey, that’s kinda like me. You program? You game? You like chill music? 😀
I don’t game as much as I use to but that will be changing soon as I’ll be moving into my own place so alone time means game time to keep myself and mind busy I have a 360 a Xbox one and a PS4 and my music omg it’s so off the wall… I’ll listen to musicals to Disney to today’s hits and slayer haha literally anything and everything that is when I listen to music I actually spend a majority of my time listening to books
Hehe, ever listened to Celldweller or Blu Stahli? Also you don’t do any PC gaming?
No pc gaming, I don’t have a computer I use a laptop at work sometimes but never did the pc games. and never heard of them I will check them out later when I’m not around loud kids and can actually listen 🙂 I’m always down for new music suggestions
Ah, you’re missing out. The PC gaming community is generally great. A little less toxic if you will. Meet a handful of awesome people through it. Some even have stuck with me for 7-8 years now. Even if we don’t have that much in common or even agree with each other that much. You mentioned you’re gonna create a dating site of some sort. You’re a web developer?
Well maybe my next big purchase should be a pc for home but it’ll be a while I’m moving next month and that’s causing me to be broke super broke cause it wasn’t a planned move and I just spent 3,000 7 months ago moving so ugh always somethin. And no I’m not creating one at the moment but I want to, I’ve thought about it a lot in the past just for people who like me are socially awkward and are nerdy like hey here’s a nerd friend for you you’ve matched now go be nerd friends and be happy. I’m weird I know. I haven’t made progress on it at all it’s just a pipe dream right now and no not a web designer (I actually run an inhome daycare with my mother) i guess in my mind I don’t think it would be to hard to make a website
Nice. I hope it goes well with the move. It’s going to be different living alone, right? Wish I could move away too. Not easy for me to find a place, even a small one and having difficulty financially. I study as a programmer, more into web development. I do both front-end and back-end. Since I’ve been working on my own login and user management system, I’ve become a big security freak. But doing it occupies my mind and pulls me away from any unpleasant thoughts I might have. It’s fun creating something of your own. If you ever need any pointers or help with it, you can always message me. I’m happy to help.
Thanks and I’m Not looking forward to this move it’s probably the hardest I’ve ever had to do I don’t do well alone but I’ve done it before I’ll manage thru it again. And for sure once I actually get what’s in my head on paper I’ll come to you for pointers. And I get the mind thing I think that’s why I do so well with kids cause they always are going and have my mind in kid zone plus I don’t like people so that’s a plus
wanted85 – Yes, you’re right. These days, all kinds of web design tools are available. Even web hosting services come with a host of tools and templates for different themes, so you can basically just design your site with a few clicks – very little, if any programming required.
I was a software engineer.
I tried some of these tools. Didn’t like them. I felt really limited to what I could do. I also tried Adobe Dreamweaver, and I just don’t trust the junk that thing generates. I’ll just keep to a text editor, documentation and myself.
You should try with guys. You’re cute girls sometimes are too complicated and picky.
LOL. Wait, are you asking him to change his sexual orientation and chase after guys instead ?
Guys? No I’m sorry I don’t date guys I am originally from NYC born in BK so I’ve been around gays even had a friend who was but I never found any kind of interest in guys sorry but thanks for the compliment no females that has ignored me for the last 26 yrs is that important for me to change my sexual orientation.
Just for the record, Match.com is a pile of shit. I had zero luck with it, whatsoever.
I had some luck on eharmony – met 2 very special women, in fact, one of whom I was sure was going to become my wife.
I had much better luck through meetup.com … not even dating events, just other stuff like hiking groups, meditation groups, wine tasting, etc. I got quite a bit of action through meetup.com … 😉
Sadlife, have you tried Meetup ? Not the singles/dating events, but just other stuff – you could try bicycling groups (since that’s your thing) or book clubs or game nights.
Dating in general is a pile of shit. It always ends leaving you worse than before, it’s like wow you found “that person” and then they always leave or hurt you beyond repair, at least that’s my experience even tho I haven’t dated a lot it still always does more harm for me than good. The phrase “someone out there for everyone” is a lie to give people hope. But again that’s just me and my feelings I still hope that those who want to find love find it and it leaves them whole and happy.
That’s just me … too 🙂