We’re programmed to say “Fine, thanks and you?” Anything else is out of the norm and isn’t appropriate for this social interaction. When youre miserable, stating that you’re fine is difficult. Sometimes I just flat out answer “Terrible, just terrible”. I get a kick out of people’s reactions. You can stop someone dead in their tracks. The whole process of “How are you?/Fine thanks” is really silly, I think. It’s just a social convention that means nothing, just a means of breaking the ice.
Everyone asks me this and my response is always the same. “Well I’m still alive so whatever that means” they always laugh and say well that’s good! Then i just laugh and say not really. No one ever notices how serious I am tho
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We’re programmed to say “Fine, thanks and you?” Anything else is out of the norm and isn’t appropriate for this social interaction. When youre miserable, stating that you’re fine is difficult. Sometimes I just flat out answer “Terrible, just terrible”. I get a kick out of people’s reactions. You can stop someone dead in their tracks. The whole process of “How are you?/Fine thanks” is really silly, I think. It’s just a social convention that means nothing, just a means of breaking the ice.
That’s great. They’ll stop asking you after a couple of these answers and you’ll be left alone. Trust me, it works 😛
Baconrind not seen you in a while 🙂
How are you? 😉
Everyone asks me this and my response is always the same. “Well I’m still alive so whatever that means” they always laugh and say well that’s good! Then i just laugh and say not really. No one ever notices how serious I am tho
I’ve heard a similar reply in Spanish: “Aqui, no mas.” “I’m just here.”
I once heard fine meant F.I.N.E. Fucked up Insecure Neurotic Emotional.