Do u think it’s better to leave a note?
Even if I could make it look like an accident I’d still like to saygoodbye. But are notes a further upset to family members? I’ve written notes to all my family and 2 for my children when they turn 18. But I’m thinking if I could make it look like I had not intended to do it, maybe they would hate me less?
What are people’s thoughts?
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What makes you think your 2 children will read a suicide note when they turn 18?
I’d leave one and at least give them the option of reading a note. And it’s really hard to make things look like an accident these days. I suppose it’s in the amount of investigation they’d actually perform.
Just curious…about how old is your son?
My son is 3 and my daughter is 10
Please don’t judge me about my feelings. I love them both dearly and I don’t want to leave them.
I’ve made a note on their envelopes stating they are not to be read until they’re older….I don’t know what age they should be to read them or whether they should read them at all, but I had to tell them how much I love them and how proud I am.
I am truly sorry if I am coming off that way. Whatever path you choose, I truly hope you find the peace you deserve. I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
You didn’t come across that way but I know someone somewhere will read it and pass judgement. Thank you for your kind words.
Least I can do.
And to hell with them if they do judge you. Nobody else is walking in your shoes. You don’t need any additional pressure here. This is supposed to be a safe haven.
Exactly what Photography said, to hell with anyone who judges you. No one walks in your shoes therefore only hypocrites will judge you. Also, if you leave a note chances are they will read way before they turn 18.
It’s possible because of their age they might cover up the how of what happened to protect them. So if they tell the kids your death was an accident the notes won’t be needed anyway
Do u think it’s better to leave a note? Yes. Here is why. Movies almost always feature someone reading a “suicide note” when an actor in the movie “offs” themselves. This my seem trite but because of this bit of Hollywood tradition most people expect one to be left behind. Failing to meet this expectation itself has been found to be a source of pain. It is natural to yearn for a suicide note in the absence of one.
For those wondering why you needed to leave, the note may not explain it to their complete satisfaction but they at least have a glimpse into your thoughts when it happened.
You are to be commended for telling them your feelings about them in your notes. Some notes are just instructions like taking care of pets or similar. Only about a forth of suicides leave a note so you are once again to be commended.
BTW: AS the others said, I cannot judge. I would be a hypocrite if I did.
PS I was thinking of the adults who knew you as wrote this, but yes a note left for your children seems kind for all the same reasons.
I’ve been editing my suicide note on an ongoing basis. While I originally wanted to leave a detailed note, I think that leaving a shorter note is better. Ultimately, regardless of what contributed to it, it’s me who is struggling and making the decision to exit.
I think I’ll simply keep it positive, thank those who attempted to help, and leave it at that.
Im not judging, and I don’t know if I have the right to say this or no, but..please..just don’t..please
@Hippo85…how are you doing?