This is a hard topic for me to talk about. I have never told anyone before, but I need to know. I noticed that I have been looking online a lot for pornography and sex videos, and I have had sex, but I dream about it a lot. I am a teenage guy and I am wondering if it is normal or if I do it for self harm. I am started to get blisters and a rash around my area and it is painful, but I can’t stop. I what to have sex, but since I can’t, I feel sad and lonely. Is there something wrong with that? Am I desprate? Am I doing self harm?
Please give me some advice or answers.
Sorry for bothering you.
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Nah, it’s normal
It is normal to want to have sex. That is how we procreate, after all.
It is also normal that you should be attracted to pornography, since pornography involves often very beautiful people doing stuff most of us could only dream of.
The problem is that we haven’t really evolved to deal with pornography that well yet. Because it is so pleasureable, especially for some of us, there is a risk that it can simply crowd out other considerations, like e.g. your poor, worn-out wang.
In other words, porn can feel so good that it stops you doing all sorts of useful things for yourself. It hijacks your attention and time.
I am not sure what the solution is, but maybe realise that porn will probably always be there, so you can always go back to it, but your life might be a lot better if you also spent time on, and prioritised other activities, such as letting your dick heal, meeting real-life women, doing your school work, etc.
I don’t know why this would be wrong. I actually think it’s normal.