Just wondering how many of us on here have that problem, of not being able to love ourselves.
Also, for those who do love yourself yet still suffer from depression and want to end your life, can you explain to me how that is? I would like to understand.
Let’s do an SP survey:
Do you love yourself?
Yes: 1
No: 9
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Ugh. Definitely not. There have been some defined periods of time in my life when I hated myself a little less than usual, and even one time where I sort of, almost, liked myself. But loving myself? Never.
Yes, I love myself. That’s what makes this struggle even harder, not being able to use the excuse that I’m worthless. Loving yourself means you have to fight for yourself 24 hours a day and that gets to be a real drag.
No, there is no reason to love myself. Disgusting appearance and personality. Hate is what I really deserve.
I would like to talk to you, frwrcnd.
I don’t like myself.
Sorry, I don’t think it’s a good idea. English is not my native language so I can’t express myself clearly enough to be a good company.
I can’t and won’t force you but I wouldn’t mind. I’m not a good company either nor I am English.
Anyway, I hope you and anyone else try and go on a walk around a forest with Nature or so, it helps me sometimes, maybe it helps you too.
nope I don’t.
No. Through years of therapy to undo a lifetime of damage, I have learned to respect myself, and accept that I’m an ok person.
But I haven’t gotten to the point where I genuinely love myself. It’s what we would have approached next in therapy, but before we got there I relapsed and now she’s busy just keeping me alive, again ….
Love myself? HA! I think the last time I really loved myself I was in, like, 3rd grade? Nothing tragic happened to me; no terrible abuse, trauma, or PTSD. Just a little garden-variety bullying here, a minor demeaning there. Like most here, I am really tired of fighting this. I could go on…and on…
Tally me on the “no” list. Ugly, worthless, useless, no talent and I panic over everything.
Maybe I am gradually coming round to the idea.
What is the point of tormenting this organism who was cast into this world and is just trying to survive like anyone else?
My hypothesis would be that hating oneself is always a social matter, at the end of the day.
In Thomas Joiner’s interpersonal theory of suicide, perceived burdensomeness and thwarted belongingness are two of three factors in suicide.
In other words, when we feel alienated and like a burden to others, that is when we risk harming ourselves. Suicide is the ultimate act of self-harm.
What’s the 3rd factor?
I’d be happy if this body was burned and reduced to ash with every trace of me gone. I don’t want to be remembered, I don’t want to be here anymore. So to answer your question, no. Never have. Never will.