IMHO? Not unless they’re being jerks to you. If they’re doing their best to support you and you just hate life right now, don’t isolate yourself further by burning bridges…what’s going on?
yeah it’s not always as good as it should be
but it still is useful
& the problem with friendship is that it builds over some time
& it’s not that easily regained if lost / broken
so I say,
as others kindly said above,
let’s not cut them out completely…
maybe you could just take a break for a while…
maintain minimum contact
just a brief “hi” once a week maybe…
& wait for a while
till you feel a bit ready to re-engage
& this time when you do so
keep in mind that maybe your expectations
about those who are currently your friends should be lowered a bit
just so as not to feel shocked / surprised if they don’t support you as you wish them too
Nope, that is a bad idea. Robert Sapolsky in a neuroendocrinologist, who studies baboons. He says that in terms of health and happiness, it is much better to be connected than to be high-status.
Also, I cut off some of my oldest friends a while back, and tbh, I have regretted it a lot.
Also, one of the top regrets of dying people is that they didn’t keep in touch with their friends.
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IMHO? Not unless they’re being jerks to you. If they’re doing their best to support you and you just hate life right now, don’t isolate yourself further by burning bridges…what’s going on?
Isolation only makes matters worse if done for a long period of time.
I guess that was I was thinking…breaking off contact altogether vs “taking a break”…most of us need a break sometimes.
“I guess that’s what I was thinking…”. Lord.
Yeah time to withdraw and decompress, everyone needs that for sure. It’s just dangerous if you can’t break out of it. :/
Hah I knew what you meant
well,
given what we talked about today
I really can’t blame you for thinking this
however,
I would still say
friends do come in handy from time to time
yeah it’s not always as good as it should be
but it still is useful
& the problem with friendship is that it builds over some time
& it’s not that easily regained if lost / broken
so I say,
as others kindly said above,
let’s not cut them out completely…
maybe you could just take a break for a while…
maintain minimum contact
just a brief “hi” once a week maybe…
& wait for a while
till you feel a bit ready to re-engage
& this time when you do so
keep in mind that maybe your expectations
about those who are currently your friends should be lowered a bit
just so as not to feel shocked / surprised if they don’t support you as you wish them too
okay 🙂
would that be okay with you?
[i’d also add, sweetie, that being alone all the time won’t be good / helpful for you <3 ]
all okay today?
Nope, that is a bad idea. Robert Sapolsky in a neuroendocrinologist, who studies baboons. He says that in terms of health and happiness, it is much better to be connected than to be high-status.
Also, I cut off some of my oldest friends a while back, and tbh, I have regretted it a lot.
Also, one of the top regrets of dying people is that they didn’t keep in touch with their friends.