I have social anxiety as well severe depression and bipolar disorder. I was raised in a very christian family where any mental problem is made up. My dad does not accept it as a problem, but as a way for me to be trying to get attention. I have told him many times that if i was trying to get attention, he would not have spent days and nights in the ICU and the ER with me. Just waiting and hoping for me to wake up after another overdose. idk what to do bc he will never understand no matter how much i try to explain… to him it is made up, a stage, and i just need to grow up…
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“very Christian” that right there got me. you’re either a Christian or you’re not.
most people do not understand severe mental illness. i believe all real human beings are mentally ill in some form, because we are imperfect.
Re very Christian, not necessarily in practice. Some are more lax, believe but only go to service say twice a year, some more zealous and hitting Sunday and Wednesday services Every week. Probably also has to do with specific denomination..
attending church service does not make you a Christian. this is the greatest misconception.
Well obviously its not about the church.. that’s an example.
My entire family is crazy christian. I do not find myself a christian. I cross every church rule and always have. They saw all mental problems are completely made up.
I was raised in a similar environment. It’s so hard, feeling this darkness and despair inside you, begging for help, but being told it isn’t real. My parents believed my depression was demonic warfare!
Is there anyone in your life who is a mental health advocate? A teacher, counselor, or other relative? I’ve been reaching out to a family friend and she has been helping my parents understand more about it.
i believe that we are spiritual beings, that is our original form, our truest form. this realm, this world, this tangible experience such as this is most likely a test. life is a gift. and we’re suffering for a reason. the truth is being withheld from us, but if we pursue it, we will discover. we ought to he grateful but it’s disheartening seeing so many of us loathing our existence. it’s so unnatural. looking at the tragedy of the world, I’m convinced that it’s nothing but spiritual warfare.
Everyone i know in family or friends dont believe in this stuff. and if they do they would tell my dad everything. and It would not work in any way because my dad would make me stop bothering other ppl. Thanks @magdeleina really means a lot to know im not the only one trapped in this kind of family
That sounds very painful. Partly your mental health struggle, partly your father not believing that it is real.
My advice would be to accept the painful truth that your father is not mature enough to understand it. Maybe he will someday. Maybe not.
Maybe you can rely on others for support?
Take care
Thank you. @muspelhem I try to rely on others but i havnt found anyone i can trust and /or who even believes me
I think sometimes you have to shift social circles. I mean, we all share a common humanity, but there will often be people who “get” you better than others. Either you could find other people who have grown up in religious families and started to question it, or you could just find people you have passions in common with, who enjoy the same things you do, whatever those may be.
Good luck