So many people have the audacity to call me a horrible parent and claim i dont accept responsibility. And its like, if you actually knew me and what me and my kids have been through, you would def think differently about me. Numerous years and hours were spent on my level 2 autistic sons’s therapy, hospitalizations and meetings with many different specialists. Waiting rooms were my 2nd home. So much paperwork that i could rebuild the amazon with. I dont think any of these judgemental people held my hand during all this.
Then there was my daughter who struggled with psoriasis/eczema and asthma n who was hospitalized and put on oxygen a few times. And i dont recall judgment people spending the night there with us either.
Sure we have moved around a few times and sure i had money issues, but thats the joy of having 1 income.
Ive left an abusive relationship because i thought of my kids. I keep them away from their dad because hes not the sweet man some people see him as. Ive been with him for yrs n believe me i know his true colors. So i shield them from anything that seems like a threat.
Ive always put my kids needs ahead of my own, and my clothes def prove it lol sure i may not say or do all the right things at the right moments but i am human and im prone to fkin things up sometimes. I never once claimed to be perfect. I try my best. my kids love me and know that ill always be there for them.
I dont know what more people want from me?! If anything ive shown numerous times i accept responsibility, and that im not a crappy parent. Sure i curse like a sailor sometimes n yea i try to watch that but ya know what im 30yrsold and if i wanna swear, ill swear. So idk, i guess i have to slit my wrists to prove somethin or whatever.
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For 10 years I caught a lot of crap from people for not being there for my children. They would say that my kids deserve a better life or a more stable one. I found it so difficult not to listen to the voices I really did. I got to the point where I just stopped caring what they said and did what I want. Iām proud of the little people my kids have become. The only thing that matters is what you think. I know our situations are way different but I thought I would share.
If you are unable to fully care for your kids and yourself at the same time, then what might be best for them is finding them safe foster homes (maybe keep one with you if you can handle it). I’m around your age and I can’t imagine trying to take care of a bunch of children when it’s hard enough to maintain my own health and obligations.
You could arrange to be able to visit your kids and give them gifts and stuff, but once you aren’t worrying so much about their welfare, perhaps you can start fixing your own life and get to a stable state where you won’t find it so difficult to be a full-time caregiver and provider.
You might think this would be selfish of you, but if your kids find someone safe to live where they can flourish, it’s better than having them around to witness your suffering. Everything stays with children even if you think they don’t notice.
*somewhere safe
Whoa whoa whoa Ivy. Im a single working parent. I can handle raising my kids, and they are safe with me. U must of misread what i wrote. I am venting because most people dont understand the struggles of being a single parent n esp to 1 of a special needs kid. My kids are happy, healthy and we have a home. We havent seen their dad in years if that was your concern. But i am just sayin that i always have my kids best jnterest at hand. And way too many people keep twisting my words around n try seein it as “i cant handle it” when in fact i can handle it and i have been for 9 years.
I have a lot of respect for what you are doing on your own. You should be proud
Thank you, unknownsoldier. And im most def proud and will continue to persevere š
Remember that if somebody points a finger at you—there are 3 pointing back at them!!