Found out today that I guy friend I’ve been talking to for while can somehow have time for someone else, but can’t meet me once. Apparently it’s a date, but whatever happened to he’s too busy, so I called him on it, but it’s like well he works all day and he’s meeting her a night, so I’m like fine I can do night, but somehow he doesn’t know when he’s off. I’m tired of only having fiends that only text me and they promise to meet me, but they never fill full that promise. I’m not asking for a boyfriend, just a friend, but I bet that if I was a attractive girl with a nice salary there ass they would be ready to meet me. I
Yeah, maybe it does go both ways, but I’m so sick of guys never being upfront with me. He tells me that he wants to meet me. No you don’t, or his ass would be made time and I’m angry because I know he’s not telling the truth and it fucks with my mind. I learn that if people’s actions don’t match their words then it’s a lie. The girls may be not sweet little angels, but at least they’re honest and upfront to me better than the guys.
Heck, one guy introduced me as his friend, and then placed his arm around like we were dating. He first said that we were on a date. I confronted him about this and asked if were boyfriend and girlfriend and said yes. Guess men are born with forked tongues.
With other men they’ll be nice and friendly, trying to get to know to me and talk about shared interests and they’ll be my friend and then I find out they only want sex, but they won’t admit it. Men are sneaky, they’ll dangle your favorite treat in front of you to pull you into a trap. Customize a trap just for you.
My only solution is to stay away. No more lies, no more games, and no more being someone’s play. As the old saying goes, “Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.”
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Yea it sounds like dude isnt interested. But theyll string u along cuz they want u as a back up in case the person they want doesnt want em. Believe me when i say walk away from that guy. Ive dealt with his type for 15yrs. Save urself the stress n frustration n find som1 else who wont waste ur time
and just what makes you consider yourself a better quality woman??? Go for it,,,, do tell….
I never said I was high quality woman. Just a woman who’s tired of being stringed along. I’m not forcing them to go out with me. I just tired of them promising me something or telling something only to do the opposite and not admitting the truth. You said the you keep finding women who haven’t been a whore or a liar. Can I say that you picked them? I can not know the person until I meet them. Most important, what makes you think that you have a lot to offer? The ones who say that usually don’t.
Oh and one more thing, just because I don’t have any assets like looks or money. Doesn’t mean I deserve to treated like shit. I am nice person. I’ve been told plenty of times that I am sweet lady by many different people. Guess I’m just doormat and I need to stop being one.
The thing is, for you as a woman, it makes sense to not want to play around. You have a biological clock ticking away, you sound like you want something serious. Whereas, as you said, for a lot of men, we just want to have fun.
So it’s kind of a battle of the sexes – everyone is looking after their own interests.
You can improve your odds of finding someone who wants the same thing you want by moving to another mating market.
E.g. if you want a serious relationship, you’re unlikely to find that with young guys (unless they’re very religious), and you’re unlikely to find it in bars.
As a guy, I sometimes think we’re just incorrigible, and that every guy (and plenty of women) just want to f*ck around, deep down. Maybe I’m wrong.
Yeah, if they have no one else then they take what they can get. They just use women to get whatever they want. I bet that once I leave men alone. They’ll start bugging me because this is how life works. When you don’t want something it comes. I’ve seen happened to me time and time again.
I have yet to meet a woman in my life, except for one, that hasn’t ben a whore or liar in some form…. thats truly sad,,,, You complain about guys, I can tell you, what you speak of here, I would never do, nor have I.
But there are reasons for this,,,,, time and time again I see women going after shit guys,,,, then they complain they get treated as shit….well,,,, you picked him,,,
I have a high standard for women because I have a lot to offer one…
Lie to me, in any amount, no matter how small, I am done with you.
Cheat once, you are done.
You smoke? You are gone.
Don’t take care of yourself? I don’t want you.
Still got the ex in your mind? Be gone.
No desire to be a companion I can count on? I am not interested in you, don’t waste my time.
For women these days are nothing like they once were… my parents were married 50 years before dad died….
Id rather die single than even associate with one more substandard woman….
You sound like a real catch hahahahahaha
You sound controlling. No need to reply, because I won’t be replying after this comment.
It’s great to have expectations, but most women will hate you for it. They find it too difficult. They will just call you “controlling” or something. It’s much easier for them when men don’t expect anything (or much of anything.) Only rich men can have any real expectations of women. The most that regular, everyday men can hope for is, “don’t be a cheating whore.” – which a few women these days can pull off, for awhile anyway. Most women suck though. I’ve met very few guys my age (20’s to 30’s) who honestly like women. Guys are constantly forced to pretend that they do, forced to lie if they want any luck with them at all, until they maybe become passive aggressive, and then “watch out woman” – in which case the big mean man always gets blamed for it, since we live in a society that rather punish, than prevent. So that’s guys in their 20’s or 30’s. Guys younger than that don’t really like or dislike chicks – they are just leaning towards thinking chicks are annoying, and trying to get laid. Then divorced guys in their 40’s and beyond often don’t like women either, since they would have further reasons not to. There may be a very small percentage of men who genuinely like women, but most of them were just tricked into thinking they need to with being beat over the head to “respect women” their entire lives no matter how much they suck, or else all be damned, or trick themselves into loving pain, and becoming masochists, just to survive the insanity. Too many men kill themselves because of women – the last woman to kill herself because of a man, was Juliet, and that wasn’t even real. Women often just wish they would die, yet seldom go through with it, and they seldom or never do it just because of a man. In the rare event a woman kills herself, it’s because she is just so internally self tortured with herself like Marilyn Monroe (for those who believe she killed herself – but if she did, that’s why) or she has really horrible back pain, and hangs herself, like the woman in Stephen King ‘s Pet Cemetary.
I don’t think women can accept guys the way we really are. Whenever I open up to a woman, she loses interest. You would rather have the action man fantasy.
you speak a lot of shit on here most of the time, but this time I fully agree with you…. as the evidence supports this excessively….
Be an asshole, the women will love you, mad at first maybe, but they can’t get enough of being treated like shit…
My cousin took this to the max, and “loved” the guy until he murdered her with a bat in front of their 2 kids,,,
Now that is “true love” 🙂
Well, it’s a delicate balance: A man who is capable of extreme violence is attractive, because that shows that he is capable of protecting a woman and their possible offspring from threats.
Unfortunately, it is a bit like having a fighting dog for protection: What if it turns on you?
These things are hardwired by aeons of evolution, so don’t blame women for it – it’s subconscious.
Speaking for myself, if I find a woman physically attractive, she can treat me almost however she wants, and I’ll still be attracted to her. But if I’m not attracted to a woman, it hardly matters what she does for me, it still won’t create that spark. Which sucks, but that’s the way it is.
true,,,,,
when it comes down to it,,,,, its just a means to an end,,,
the goal of a guy finding a female is to mate to produce offspring to continue the species….
all of the rest of the idea of dating is bullshit created to just be a tease…..
Well, it’s also a way for the woman to try to suss out the man – figure out what kind of guy he is. And of course it’s equally an opportunity for the guy to get to know the woman better. But we tend to be dtf pretty fast…
Women are more picky, because they only ovulate once a month, and if they get pregnant, they are “out of the game” for 9+ months. Bear in mind these things evolved before things like condoms and the pill. Whereas men can just shoot their load again and again. So it makes less sense for men to be picky.
Plus, as you said yourself, guys are potentially lethal to women. So that is another very good reason why they don’t just go home with whoever. Because the women who did that died out.
i totally agree with the”continue the species” piece….totally the end game.
If you’re interested, I would recommend Helen Fisher’s research to everyone. It helped me understand my feelings in relationships a lot better.
Basically she describes how the part of you that lusts after someone, the part of you that is romantically attracted to someone, and the part of you that grows attached to someone – those are drives in your brain, and they operate sort of independently of one another.
Before that, I couldn’t understand how I could grow attached to someone I had never really been romantically attracted to – or be romantically attracted to someone I didn’t lust after that much. Etc.
thanks for the research! being a tomboy, raised by my dad, i kind of had guys figured out at young age. it served me well. than you daddy xox
I’m too depressed to deal with the games guys play. It makes me think why he doing it, then I doing a bunch of research. It’s creating a bad scab because the area itches so badly. But then all people do is play games. I afraid of being used.
This song gives a possible explanation.
https://youtu.be/awY1MRlMKMc
If they aren’t upfront, move on and find another guy (easier said than done). If they play mind games, same thing.
Then again, how do you really know what someone is thinking
i dumped several women because they thought I thought more of their ass than I did them as a person,,,, which was wrong….
Overall, I find most women sub quality and by no means worthy of what I can give….. its a shame, but many women today have become victims of this pathetic society, which stresses materialism, loose morals, and just plain trashy attitudes….
Just look at how so many now have tattoos too,,, thats another thing,,,, have tattoos, you are not quality,,, it screams trash and filth,,,,only exception being one lady I know that wants one to remember her dad….
Is it just out of modesty you withhold this divine moral integrity or are we also not worthy of all the incredible things you have to offer? You may consider condescending to reveal some it before someone mistakes you for some pompous, self-righteous blowhard.
and so many end up single mothers because they chose the wrong guy, again, inferior thinking,,,
blaming the man for this and that,, well,,, you got together with him,,,dropped your pants for him.. now live with the results of your inferior emotional thinking process….
The emotion of love is promiscuous and not to be trusted.
Hurt can incite clarity, it shapes and refines our selection criteria beyond innate desire. Sadly, we discover what we want, through what we don’t want.