All I want is just one person. One genuine person who will listen even when I sound a bit crazy. Someone who will say “hey come over” knowing I’m having a bad day. Or if I just need to rant I know I could text them paragraph after paragraph just to get it all off my chest, just to have someone to confide in. Someone who wont get too busy to see me or listen to me or wont get bored of me and my problems and decide to just leave because I’m no longer worth there time or patience. Someone who will make time to see me, to talk, to hang out. It’s just hard going on month after month without anyone to fill that lonely void.
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In my experience it seems only a good family member or a really close friend could fill that void in one’s life.
I have a number of good friends but I could almost never count on them for more than a brief period of time or a certain situation. We just don’t have the kind of relationship where we could be there for each other no matter what. And actually it works for me also-since I wouldn’t want to hear about their daily struggles either.
But I totally know the feeling of needing to vent and in my case I do have a close family member who knows things about me that no one else does and info I wouldn’t ever tell anyone else anyways-it’s a huge help.
It isn’t easy to find such people but hopefully there are family members or friends you could turn to. If not you could always just post your thoughts here as people do read and listen. I realize it’s not the same as one on one and random strangers can give you opinions you might not want to hear, but it’s still better than nothing.
I have never found such a person. It seems hard for me to imagine that someone could be both a friend (in the ‘doing things together and having fun’ sense) and a confidante (‘I am unhappy’). I think knowledge of the latter would ‘pollute’ the former.
I am pretty sure that I will not be around for more that 12-15 months. Once my youngest daughter leaves home I am leaving too. Yesterday, at my regular book club, I was talking to about the most sensitive friend that I have. I would have liked to share what’s going through my head, but I couldn’t. Firstly, I wouldn’t want him mentioning this to anyone else (there’s no ‘cry for help’ going on here) and secondly I wouldn’t want him forever looking at me as though I were in some way damaged or unstable.
So good luck, but I actually think this sort of site is about as good as you may get.
what they said. Give it a try. I’m all ears.
Some things that I’ve heard of being successful is writing to your journal (no, not a typo). Yes, writing to your journal like a genuine “Dear Diary”. You can write whatever you’d like, tell it whatever, etc. Yes, I know it doesn’t sub for a real person but in a pinch it might help.
I personally haven’t had success with the journal thing. Its only something I’ve heard. 🙂
Best wishes
I write in a journal off and on. It helps sometimes. But no one wants to be a whipping post. And I can’t blame them.
I’m a whipping post. I don’t have a single person. I did for 10 months once but she was taken away from me. Maybe in 12 years or so I will have her back.
Life’s sufferings can go on for a long long while and all we really get to alleviate it is learning new ways to distract ourselves.
thank you all for your suggestions it really helps