Not long ago, my Ex attempted to hang himself, and even though we arent together anymore, it really upset me.
He survived it, and when I called up to the hospital to check up on him and offer support, he just flat-out hung up on me without saying a word.
We used to be so close. Super close.
When we were still together, we were going to get married. But something got a hold of him. He stopped acting like himself, and he shut everyone out. I know it’s depression, and I know a lot of it isnt his fault. but still. Over time, things got worse and worse. I’d try to be there for him, and reassure him that he was loved by people, but he wouldnt believe it for some reason. Nothing we ever said was good enough. We all got pushed further and further away. He acted less and less like his old, cheerful, bubbly self. He broke up with me one day, and to this day, I still dont know why. I’ve had to learn to move on and let him go. and that’s been hard. Very hard. It’s like the person I used to know isnt even there anymore. It feels like he died, consumed by this…thing.
If you’re depressed, please dont shut out the people who care about you. It hurts to watch someone you care about suffer, and it hurts even more to not be able to do anything about it. After talking to someone today about it, I realized how heartbroken I still am over it. Please dont shut your loved ones out.
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Mac are you a female? I just assumed you were a guy from your posts, it’s fine either way, just curious.
Sorry to hear about your friend. It’s unfortunate what depression and other mental illnesses can do to people. Too bad he cut off communications with you.
I recently lost touch with someone I was friends with for years. We had drifted over time and were in different circles anyway but I thought we’d be there for each other through thick and thin.
But clearly, he didn’t see it the same way since he made no effort to get in touch or leave me his new contact info though I sent him an email, our last resort/back up way of communicating.
He doesn’t even realize that if I ever ended up doing well in life I planned to help him out in a big way. His loss though, he’s missed out on my friendship, loyalty and the potential benefits he would’ve gotten from our relationship had he stayed in my life.
Too bad it’s not easy to find good friends and I don’t get why some people don’t value others as much as other people value them. It’s also a bit more challenging to make new friends when you’ve reached a certain stage in your life. Most people have their own group and very rarely want to make new connections unless it benefits them somehow.
I’m a guy. I just happen to be interested in men and women equally. it was a homosexual relationship.
Thanks for clarifying. It’s always discouraging to lose someone that we were once close with.
Depression kinda does that. I feel like a different person as well when my depression and isolation started.
I can understand that. What I cant understand is how he walked away from everything we had going. Like I mentioned, we were going to get married, and one day out of the blue, he just broke things off without any explanation. I cant wrap my head around that. Maybe that’s what depression does, and at the same time, it’s so confusing. I dont get it.