Being a somebody usually means you’re in a certain group or at a time in your life where you are respected and appreciated.
Becoming a nobody usually would mean your life (or the people around you) have changed and they don’t value you as others have in the past.
I can relate to an extent. What I’ve been trying to do to feel like a ‘somebody’ again is to improve my life so that I can have all the things I want from it. It’s a hard, fairly lonely struggle but I know if I can succeed I’ll find happiness again.
As for your last sentence you’re right-most people don’t want to deal with other people’s issues. They’re selfish and uncaring. That’s why I have gotten rid of individuals who are like that from my life. The few friends/family that remain, have been there for me through thick and thin.
There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect person’ or a real best friend. At some point everyone lets you down. So it’s best to have realistic expectations otherwise we can end up alone.
It’s also easy to forget that the best person you know can be yourself-assuming you have the right qualities and deserve that title. By best I mean, being that friend who’ll be there for others when times are bad, bringing positivity and enriching other people’s lives and so on.
So I often forget that I am that guy that people would wish to have as their best friend and if they didn’t and took me for granted then it’s their loss.
The trouble is that I’ve had low self-esteem for a long time and didn’t value myself as much as I should’ve, so if you don’t respect yourself why should anyone else (speaking only for myself)? So at times I’ve had to remind myself of what I bring to the table and how I benefit other people’s lives.
Fortunately I’m ok when it comes to having contacts, I really don’t care to add more people in my life-besides most people out there turn me off. Plus I have friends from my past I can always call on if I really need to and we have a shared history.
What I lack is a significant other. Trouble is that I had been quite lucky in my past in terms of finding great partners (missed opportunities aside). You could say I’ve been a bit spoiled and I could never settle for someone ordinary.
But then having those high standards can also lead to loneliness. Sometimes we do create our own misery, but at least I’m not in an unhappy relationship being with someone I don’t really like. Plus I’ve beaten the odds before just have to do it again. I’ll end my post here, I wasn’t intending to type a novel.
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Being a somebody usually means you’re in a certain group or at a time in your life where you are respected and appreciated.
Becoming a nobody usually would mean your life (or the people around you) have changed and they don’t value you as others have in the past.
I can relate to an extent. What I’ve been trying to do to feel like a ‘somebody’ again is to improve my life so that I can have all the things I want from it. It’s a hard, fairly lonely struggle but I know if I can succeed I’ll find happiness again.
As for your last sentence you’re right-most people don’t want to deal with other people’s issues. They’re selfish and uncaring. That’s why I have gotten rid of individuals who are like that from my life. The few friends/family that remain, have been there for me through thick and thin.
There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect person’ or a real best friend. At some point everyone lets you down. So it’s best to have realistic expectations otherwise we can end up alone.
It’s also easy to forget that the best person you know can be yourself-assuming you have the right qualities and deserve that title. By best I mean, being that friend who’ll be there for others when times are bad, bringing positivity and enriching other people’s lives and so on.
So I often forget that I am that guy that people would wish to have as their best friend and if they didn’t and took me for granted then it’s their loss.
The trouble is that I’ve had low self-esteem for a long time and didn’t value myself as much as I should’ve, so if you don’t respect yourself why should anyone else (speaking only for myself)? So at times I’ve had to remind myself of what I bring to the table and how I benefit other people’s lives.
Fortunately I’m ok when it comes to having contacts, I really don’t care to add more people in my life-besides most people out there turn me off. Plus I have friends from my past I can always call on if I really need to and we have a shared history.
What I lack is a significant other. Trouble is that I had been quite lucky in my past in terms of finding great partners (missed opportunities aside). You could say I’ve been a bit spoiled and I could never settle for someone ordinary.
But then having those high standards can also lead to loneliness. Sometimes we do create our own misery, but at least I’m not in an unhappy relationship being with someone I don’t really like. Plus I’ve beaten the odds before just have to do it again. I’ll end my post here, I wasn’t intending to type a novel.