The world tells us so many things, feeds us plenty of lies, and way too much bullshit.
I’m so sick of being sexualized for wearing a plain shirt with bra straps underneath. God forbid, I’m a woman, and GOD FORBID I wear a bra.
I’m tired of being catcalled on the sidewalk while walking home from the library by 30 year old white men yelling “nice tits” out the car window. I’m sixteen you creeps. Catcalling, is trying to humiliate you, reinforce their own dominance over you; it’s a way of trying to say, “hey, I’m able to tear you down and say what I want about you, no matter how uncomfortable or inappropriate it makes you feel, and your not able to do a thing” Catcalling is not a compliment, its a threat.
it’s so sexist how young girls will be sent home from school because her mid drift is showing, or her shoulders are too bare, or her shorts are to short. you are teaching her that trying to hide her body should be and is more important rather than her education. You are teaching her that making sure boys have a distraction-free learning space is of higher standards than her education. All in all, your saying a boys education is worth more, and this is not okay.
It’s fucking stupid when people make rape jokes
I’m so pissed off at people saying “she was asking for it.” I don’t care if you’re the demon spawn of Hannibal Lecter and Darth Vader, and I don’t care if you’re the only girl around for miles. no one deserves to be assaulted or raped.
It’s so frustrating with society and the contradiction that comes with it. No boobs? grow some. Boobs? damn, better cover yourself up. that’s inappropriate. No ass? you look like a door, it’s embarrassing. Ass? cover yourself. otherwise your asking for it. Makeup? nope, going swimming the first date, be more natural. No makeup? put some on, you look so plain and ugly. Skinny? damn, eat a sandwich, you look anorexic. Chubby? hell no, make sure to lose weight and go on a diet.
“Get back in the kitchen. Dyke. Prude. Attention seeker. *****. Make me a sandwich. Slut. Whore.
Stop trying to degrade women. stop body shaming us.
we deserve better than this.
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I’m male and I completely agree with everything said here. One of the few men who’s disgusted by my gender for all the shit we do & say. It’s even worse behind closed doors “locker room talk” and all that. I’ve gotten into a few fights over ignorant things said. Not that violence is a good thing but I think misogynists need their skulls cracked
I agree entirely, no one deserves to be treated like that. It got to the point with my last employer that since they clearly weren’t going to do anything, I had to leave. Well, it was leave or hurt them, but they’ll get theirs in due time, you don’t behave like the scum of the earth and get away with it forever, at least I hope not.
A couple of weeks back, I was having a long, hard look and my relationship and I realized all my reasons for marrying this man were ‘I can have a career’, ‘he won’t force me’, ‘children are my choice’, or ‘he’ll cook sometimes.’ It’s depressing. He’s selfish and immature, but I’ll still marry him because he’s the most decent man I’ll find.
I didn’t know catcalling was a domination tactic. I always thought it was an immature expression of sexual attraction.
Im not sure you understand how intense the desire for the opposite sex can become in heterosexual males. And a lot of them would love to be objectified somewhat like that anyways. They are horny as hell, after all.
as a hetrosexual male, strength of attraction is not a compelling defense. Explanation, sure, but behind that explanation is the dark fact that far too many men are not held accountable.
I’ve worked alongside some truly stunning women, but my upbringing taught me not to bring it up unless it is the topic of conversation. I know that it has been part of the culture of the blue collar, but times change. Not that I’m perfect, but coming to terms with the out of whack culture is a major part of my story.
Coming from personal viewpoint, I can’t say that I completely understand the intensity of desire for the opposite sex, but from my own experiences I have been catcalled so many times, sometimes for the stupidest things that doesn’t even make sense. The thing is, a cat caller more than likely knows their target isn’t going to turn around and fall into their arms, pleading to have sex with them. someone who shouts ‘nice tits’ from a car isn’t trying to date you, it’s to embarrass and humiliate you.
Catcalling makes me feel awful, regardless of who is doing it to whom, whether it is directed towards me or someone else and I happen to hear it.
It has been directed at me, a heterosexual male. I felt sickened by it. It was once directed at my sister as we walked. I felt sickened by it. I detest hearing it. Why do people do it?
Catcalling seems like a lack of impulse control. It seems like the very same lack of impulse control that leads to inappropriate comments and touching at workplaces.
I have come to realize that the people who lack the emotional regulation to refrain from destructive impulses pay a high price for their shortcoming.
I have come to realize that when I lacked the emotional regulation to refrain from my own various destructive impulses I paid a high price for my shortcoming.
Catcalling says far more about the caller than it does the one being called. But I still cringe at some of the inappropriate touching and comments (that I consider related to the catcalling phenomena) that I have experienced in work places. Thankfully I have not heard any catcalling for years and I hope I never hear it again.
“It’s so frustrating with society and the contradiction that comes with it. No boobs? grow some. Boobs? damn, better cover yourself up. that’s inappropriate. No ass? you look like a door, it’s embarrassing. Ass? cover yourself. otherwise your asking for it. Makeup? nope, going swimming the first date, be more natural. No makeup? put some on, you look so plain and ugly. Skinny? damn, eat a sandwich, you look anorexic. Chubby? hell no, make sure to lose weight and go on a diet.”
Agreed, that would be frustrating. After reading your post I noticed something on TV. It seems women who work in front of the camera for commercials and the news all have remarkably similar body characteristics, most of the time. They almost all seem to have close to the same height to weight ratios and seemingly similar bust, waist, and hip ratios, or so it seems. But, out in the workplace and supermarket and all those public places I would hazard a guess that maybe 1 in 20 of women in the US have a build like what I see on the TV. In other words, there is no right or standard or perfect body shape except what whatever somebody might think it is.
So I know of at least one one young lady whose mother (!) basically told her “No boobs? grow some” but really that is just wrong. The young lady has what she has.
Every thing you wrote in this paragraph sounds like crazy making, or shaming. I wish people did not do this to one another.