Hello everyone,
I never thought I’d be coming here again. It’s been a long few years after all. And yet, here I am. What’s going to be said is exactly what I put for the title. I’m so fucking stupid. Not only that, but I’m in deep shit too. And it’s all because I was stupid, gullible, and desperate. Have you ever heard of someone doing stupid shit while horny? Well this ranks pretty high up there. Now I’m sure a lot of you, if not all of you, know about and have visited or heard of a website called Omegle. Anonymous chatting site. Dangerous. Long story short, I met someone there who claimed to be a woman, and we started chatting, eventually moving to Instagram, and then moving to hangouts. One minute I’m watching a girl mess around while in a video call, the next I’m told that it’s been recorded and whoever this is has all my information and knows who my friends and family are. Im sure you can figure out what they wanted from there. Money. Money to delete it all and make it go away and never contact me or anyone I know. $500 usd. I’m so screwed. I’ve already paid over half of it because that’s all I had and I was terrified that this person would think that I wasn’t taking it seriously. Hell I’m still not even sure if they’ll keep to their word and delete it but I have no choice but to pay them the rest. I have a week to get the rest of the money and pay them. I can only pray that they’re serious about deleting it. This is some of the scariest shit that has happened to me in my life and I honestly want to throw myself into the fucking highway. Not only that, but I already know I’m going to be thrown through the fucking wringer for this, because my mom can see every. Single. Transaction. I make. That’s right, my bank account is linked to hers because I forgot to make a new one after turning 18! Lucky me right? If she does ask I don’t know what to do. I could try to get her to respect me as an adult and let me explain, but that’s probably not gonna happen. I just want this nightmare to end
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hey hey hey
wait a sec
like
i don’t understand
what ‘exactly’ Exactly is it that this dirtbag of a person is holding on You here??
he has recorded minutes of what?
You on one half of the screen & a girl on the other half of the screen [doing ‘whatever’]?
What on Earth does this hold against You mate?
Listen, if it’s as I described above,
please Please
RIGHT NOW
You call\go to your bank & request they stop\cancel\retract your transfer Immediately… Say it plain out that You’ve been scammed by someone & need your transfer stopped\cancelled immediately
Then
we figure this whole situation out…
I want to do that, trust me I really do, but I don’t know if I can. If I do that there’s nothing to stop this person from sending out those pictures/videos. Hell I don’t even know what all they’ve got. I know they have my face and more than likely a few illicit screenshots. I just don’t want those getting out. I’ve been thinking about it and honestly the only way out I see is to just straight up tell everyone. Doing that would kill me though, because although it could be considered unhealthy, I care quite a bit about what people think of me and I really don’t want to be looked down upon for this.
mate “looked down upon” for what???
: (
Look, i need your answers to [2]Questions…
In the video-chat or whatever it is that was supposedly recorded of You:
1} Was the girl doing something ‘unconservative’ or ‘immoral’… is that it?
2} Were ‘You’ recorded doing something ‘unconservative’ or ‘immoral’?
or
Were You just sitting there staring silently at the screen,
or with maybe some expressions or saying some words here & there, but fully dressed & not ‘doing’ anything?
She was fully unclothed, and I was not fully unclothed, but was ‘enjoying’ on camera with my face in view at their request. And as for being looked down upon? I was stupid and paid someone $350 dollars as a consequence of being horny. I don’t want my friends and especially not my family to see that. I value them and how they view me more than my own life which is why I gave into the threats in the first place.
okay… here’s the deal
1}
In a purely ‘Legal’ And ‘Societal’ sense… You did NOTHING Wrong
The Only Only ‘context’ that this situation could be described as ‘wrong’ is either a ‘religious’ or ‘moral’ context, & in these contexts it is a 100% Very Personal thing… it’s either only between You & God or between You & Yourself…
No One gets to have a ‘relevant’ vote or judgement or evaluation of You in any of it
Not your parents, Not your family, & Most Certainly Not your friends
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2}
‘If’ the dirtbag does send something to someone…
The Only thing You ‘might’ owe your parents [&\or family]
is an apology that You have ‘transgressed the values they raised You upon’ or whatever [I’m writing this while feeling very cringy because it’s really ridiculous that they’d even want or need an explanation or apology]
& state that You made a mistake
& that’s it…
It’s really really straight-forward & simple & You’d only only need to do it ‘if’ someone confronts You about it… if no one said a word consider that they either weren’t sent anything or they’re actually mature enough to brush this aside as Pure Nonsense, because that’s exactly what it is
Just ‘own up to it’ & throw it a million miles behind your back because it’s just ‘garbage’
‘YES I DID That & it ended up being some sick dirtbag blackmailing me for $500 to not send this to anyone I know, I told him he can go to hell, & I trust that You can understand my apology & that I admit I made a mistake but this mistake does Not ‘define me’… I hope You can throw this behind your back because I already threw it behind mine’
Mate You got recorded watching a camgirl or whatever… So Freakin What???
Who doesn’t at this age of Online-Everything??
It’s not like You were recorded doing a freakin Crime!
You got ‘horny’, Big Deal, Who on Earth Doesn’t?
It made You take some not-very-wise decisions… So Freakin What??
You’re a Human Being mannn!
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3}
Pleeeease
Call the Bank & Cancel The Transfer mate! : (
Like, Dear God, that scumbag thief doesn’t deserve 1 single freakin dollar!!
At least At least call to ask if this is currently an option, & if Yes, until when can You take that step at the latest
If they ask why or that they can only do it under special circumstances, just say it plain out “I Have Been *Blackmailed* & I need to cancel the transfer ASAP”
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4}
In a purely ‘Legal’ sense, what that dirtbag is doing is freakin ‘Blackmail’
That is a punishable CRIME… it’s no joke… This person is facing jail-time here
So after doing the bank step
You take screenshots of Every Single Thing You got from that person &\or girl[We have No Idea if maybe that girl herself is willingly or unwillingly involved in all this… she might even be in danger!] from the very very beginning till this very moment & you back it up
I would then urge You to take it up to Police… but I want You to deal with these abovementioned steps first
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If You’re an adult
You owe Nothing To No Living Person
okay
This is Your Life
A Very common thing\realization that older people Always say when they reach like 50s & 60s… is that Others Opinions Are Really Worthless & that they wish they could go back in time & tell this to their younger-selves so that they would live free of this useless burden
That’s Always their advice to younger people
What Others Think Of You Means Nothing
It’s Your Life
You be Your Own Judge & Your Own Jury
Tell me what You think
I think you’re entirely right. I did nothing wrong. It was a mistake, one made while I was not in a clear state of mind. Ever since it began I’ve been trying to calm myself down, I think the initial shock and fear may have hindered my ability to make rational judgements concerning the situation. While I am still concerned, I have no doubts that giving in further will only make the situation worse. I suppose that leaves only the one final problem. See, if I can somehow muster up the courage and put aside my embarrassment to do so, I intend to let the people I care about know. I’m hoping that this will take away the leverage that they have against me. I would definitely try and I can only pray that it works, but if the images or whatever they might have do get sent, I’ll put my trust in them to see it for what it is. Blackmail. I’m still nervous, but I shouldn’t have allowed myself to think my life would be ruined because of this. Here’s to hoping this will work out in the end..
So Sooo relieved to be reading this… You’ve snapped out of ‘Panic Shock’… that was a Super Important first step! Well Done Man!
Everything You said avout dealing with ‘family’ part of the situation is perfect, I just still think it’s really not even something that You need to ‘expose yourself first’ so that the scumbag ‘loses leverage’…
Mate there’s Nothing to ‘expose’ & that dirtbag has ‘Nothing’ on You… what he’s holding on You is a ‘Sac of Dirt’, he just planted it in your head that this ‘Dirt’ he has is worth $500
don’t give in to this scumbag’s trickery
You don’t need to muster the courage for anything
I’m strongly strongly advising You to
1}
please call\go to the bank Right Now, request to cancel the transfer &, if needed, explain why in plain simple terms, You’re not in anyyy Legal wrong here, it’s that scumbag who is, not You
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2}
take a screenshot & save EVERYTHING & back it up on a flash\hard drive \etc.
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3}
Only Only briefly explain & apologize to the single person who confronts You about it… You don’t need to make a ‘pre-emptive’ public announcement & You don’t need to adress everyone You know just because One person comes & tells You they got sent something… Mate it’s Presidential Candidates & Congressmen who do stuff like that when they *cheat on their wives*
: D
Are You running for an election & worried about your image & popularity among your voters or something?
Your Situation is like 0.1% compared to the need of these guys in their situations… Neither are You a VIP, nor are You a cheater\wrongdoer, let alone criminal…
: )
That scumbag has ‘Nothing’
& You don’t need to do a thing
Be Brave,
not by pre-emptively doing anything,
but by being ready & willing to face whatever it is that this situation brings
because You’re confident in your integrity as a human being & as your own person
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4}
Consider Either
Getting the Police involved [MOST SPECIALLY ‘if’ the transfer couldn’t be cancelled… You will get your money back, trust me, & this\these scumbag(s) will be thrown in a jailcell where he &\or she belong(s)
Or
Sending them a text saying You’ve cancelled the transfer
& if they so much as dared to send anyone you know a single pixel of anything they have of You they’ll be spending a good amount of time of their lives rotting in a prison cell
Before doing either
i would actually even advise You to seek a lawyer’s opinion…
there’s like a free consultation page on reddit i think… & some lawyers offer free consultation through their websites\emails… Just google ‘Digital Blackmail Lawyer’…
You just create a throwaway account\email, type your situation in as much anonymous detail as possible, & see what they’ll advise You to do & the pros & cons of each option they mention
Whatever You Do
Please Cancel The Transfer
Those $350 are YOURS not that scumbag’s
P.S.
if at any point You wish to talk about this[or anything else] more privately\personally, please know You’re Most Welcome to e-mail me
farahlajeennouraldeen.1@gmail
Alright!
You’ll be fine mate!
: )
Well by law nobody can share your images/vids without your permission, obviously they’re also blackmailing you. Report them to the police-I’ve heard these types of people have been caught before, get them jailed.
Secondly you shouldn’t pay one red cent because they can keep extorting you for money, plus you need savings to survive on.
Also use some common sense-I guess you learned the hard way that if you’re online esp. on cam, you can be recorded. If you want to ‘have fun’ with someone obv you should only meet them in person, clearly you were set up.
There’s a lot of filthy rotten lowlives out there. If I was you, I’d report them to the cops and they can get their hackers to find these bastards and give them what they deserve.