“sometimes it just bounces off you”
should i even bother still mentioning things if its pointless??
“what doesnt kill you makes you stronger”
what they dont mention is whether or not that wound is still open. if its healed then yeah your stronger, but if youre constantly struggling all youre doing is keeping your head above water as the weight gets heavier. the wound isnt closed and is just reopening/getting worse. going through things doesnt always makes you stronger….
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Who told you those things?
things?
the initial statement “sometimes it just bounces off of you” is what my friend said when we were talking about what its like to deal with me. he never meant it in a negative way, just telling me what im like, which is good for me to know.
the “what doesnt kill you makes you stronger” thing was just me.
Oh okay. The whole it will bounce off of you seems interesting. Though the way I put it, things just don’t bounce off you and leave. It really depends on what it is because in some cases, things could be chronic and lifelong.
he meant more in a helping way. he knows i have bpd and seems to have an ok understanding that things are difficult for me.
when hes helping he means that what he says bounces off me and doesnt sink in until later
Yeah, it has no effect on you when he tries to help. I’ve dealt with that a lot. I would even say your friend is a true one because bpd can also drive people away. It becomes too much for them. At least from my experience of bpd. Have you had a feeling that one day he would abandon you by any chance?
i wouldnt say its quite that, for me its more “you dont care, youre just here because you have to be. cant leave the suicidal girl alone.”
You’re just hear and nothing can be done. I’m assuming is what ur view on it. Yeah we didn’t have a choice. But the whole thing about thinking about ur friend leaving one day was something I ask was because I fo know one key thing with bpd is the fear of abandment.
people like to believe narrative is linear, that our lives can be as satisfying as the stories we tell ourselves. Maybe for some it is, but for the rest of us denial is driving us to “insanity.”
life just is, and then someday it isn’t. It doesn’t need to make sense. That’s all of our faulty conditioning. There’s just alive, and not, and for today you’re alive. Pain IS a great teacher, but the final lesson it has to teach is that moments of joy are fleeting, kindness rare, and suffering unavoidable.
Healthy people are deluding themselves, but what a fabulous and tempting delusion it is.