The easy thing to do is write a will, but I think that’s the lazy way out. For a will to be properly carried out, someone would have to hire lawyers, an executor, tax specialist, and be prepared for the administrative & legal fallout. Those who have lost family members as I have will know what I’m talking about. Inheritance goes to the lawyers & taxman.
Also especially in the case of suicide, count on your will to be contested because by definition (so the law says) if you kill yourself you’re mentally ill. A written will by a suicidal person is as good as a drunk sketch on a cocktail napkin in the eyes of the courts.
So in other words, if you want your kid sister to get your clock radio, then just give her the damn clock radio. Don’t write a convoluted legal document that requires a bunch of $200/hr lawyers to hand it to her with a tax bill.
That’s an oversimplified example but you get my point. I have a pretty sizable net worth. If I can get everything liquid in time, I’ll just write a check and mail it to my beneficiaries. Or better yet, set up an automatic Paypal Friends & Family transfer (no fees, no taxes).
The problem: I don’t have any beneficiaries. There isn’t a single person in the world whom I care about, or who cares about me, enough for me to hand over my secret treasure. I’m sure I’m not the only one here who’s in this situation. Every day there are posts about being completely alone. So what do you guys plan to do with your money & property?
An obvious choice would be to donate it, but I have an even greater mistrust of “charitable organizations” than I have for people in general. This came from years of volunteering with charities and quietly observing how things are run. It would make you sick, even with the most respected charities.
Throw on top of the fire the fact that I’m too exhausted with this world to do much of anything, let alone engage in a major search for the fucking chosen one. Increasingly it’s looking like all my monetary value will simply vanish, like any value I had as a human, and nobody will give a shit. In practical terms I guess it all gets assimilated by the government.
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I understand your being perplexed.
I have a dog and were I in the same situation I would probably find a rescue organisation or even more than one to (anonymously) transfer money to them.
They always desperately need help.
Just a thought of course.
I am sorry to hear about all these decisions, but I am somehow in a similar situation, I have books, some precious objects etc.
I am planning to make boxes to send to friends, telling (lying) them if they can be kind to keep them for a while until I find a definite/definitive location where to establish myself.
Antiques to the one who love antiques objects, books to the one who love books etc.
I don’t know these are my thoughts/plans.
Thanks for your reply. That’s a great suggestion of asking people to ‘temporarily’ hold on to your things while you’re looking for a new place. Maybe to make it less suspicious and easier for everyone, I could just rent a storage unit and ask someone to hold on to the keys. Then leave notes inside saying they can keep it all.
Still not sure who I’ll give the keys to, but I guess any trustworthy neighbor is good enough. Better than leaving it all in a mess for public auction.
You are most welcome.
I know there is this mix of something utterly profound (the decision to end it all) and something ordinary like leaving all taken care for/of.
The storage rent also could work, and the notes inside are a brilliant idea. Really.
As for the rescue orgs just look online and take your time to ‘feel’ which ones would be more probable/appealing to you.
As for liquid cash… a rescue org would be great. Problem is the ones around here are all corrupt (the big ones in the city). Maybe out in the rural areas there are some small rescues where people actually care about the animals.
Mmmmm… How about giving it to the firefighter or an hospital nearby? We can do it here, and, assuming we can trust the staff which is usually the case for those people, it will save lives.
On the surface those are great suggestions. But in practice the money doesn’t always go to good people. For example the hospital here killed my father. And how do I know the next hospital isn’t any better? I’ve learned that organizations are usually corrupt under the surface. However if I happened to meet 1 individual firefighter who was a truly good person dedicated to saving lives, I might just hand everything over to that person. But this isn’t a stupid Hollywood movie where things like that happen. I can’t go out looking for a pure soul when my own life is a swamp of hell. Maybe light myself on fire and give everything to the 1st firefighter who shows up lmfao
Like nobody else said, “On the surface those are great suggestions. But in practice the money doesn’t always go to good people. ” Two hospitals here killed my son-in-law. One got him to death’s door and the other slammed it. Both may get sued.
It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it, When you realize you can’t trust the people whose job is to save your life. Our experiences might be just isolated cases, but I can never trust a hospital again. I’ll probably die from a common cold because I refused to get help.
I didn’t trust them before he died. A few years ago, psychotropic drugs almost killed my sister. The errors go on and on. Taken one by one by one, these are but anecdotal stories. Taken together, a pattern emerges.
I fantasize finding a random homeless person on street and giving him all my wealth.
That’s actually a really wonderful thought. Almost like it doesn’t matter how much you fuck up your own life if you pass your wealth on to a stranger who can use it, that justifies your whole existence.
Wish I could ask you for help from that pov. Because money (or lack thereof) is an issue for me and is one of the reasons which makes my future even bleaker and the decision of end this life more feasible.
Hope you find the right solution and be (for once) happy about something in your life.
I mean it.
I haven’t thought about it before. I don’t own much. I know who I’ll send my valuables to. My money, I’ll probably empty my account into my neediest family’s hands. Not that it’ll help much. I’ll spend a lot of savings on travel before doing it. The rest.. some clothes and books? I don’t know, maybe I’ll burn it all so I won’t be tempted not to finish the deed.
That would be interesting, to spend it all on a few pleasures before you go. I wonder if anyone has ever done that. Book a really nice vacation to an exotic place, spared no expense, then come checkout time… it’s checkout time.