I feel like a zombie mindlessly wandering through life. Everyday is exactly the same. I wake up and I go to school, be lonely and sad, go home, do more school and be lonely and sad. I’ve been in a school club since January and still I’ve never felt more alone.
Ironically, the whole purpose of the club is to make friends. I go to every meeting. I speak when I’m spoken to and that’s about it. I don’t have anything in common with these people. All they talk about is Band stuff or drama in their social lives. It feels so much worse to be lonely surrounded by others than it does to be physically alone.
I feel like that’s part of my problem in general. I have nothing in common with the people around me, though even if I did, I probably still wouldn’t approach them.
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“It feels so much worse to be lonely surrounded by others than it does to be physically alone.”
That’s very true. I guess all you can do is look elsewhere for those you have more in common with (possibly online if it’s very niche?) And maybe develop your assertiveness so you’re prepared to reach out when you do find likeminded people. Otherwise all you’re left with is tailoring your personal interests to be more compatible with those around you.
Hope you find your people. It sucks to spend a lifetime feeling that way (from my experience.)
I agree 100% with thehusk, finding the right people seems like the goto solution.
But, it might be possible to find common ground with them. Maybe ask what instrument you should take up? That’d make their band talk less dull I’d bet.
It’s not an all or nothing, in my experience, finding friendship. Sometimes you just find people that make you less lonely, and you just keep collecting those until you’re marginally content.
I have a group I play dungeons and dragons with, and no matter what we can always talk about the mechanics of that. Sometimes we do other stuff together, like this week we went to a concert, which was fun. Then I’m also involved in about half a dozen small gaming communities, and that’s enough most of the time.
In some ways though, it’s a search that is ongoing. Sometimes people move away, or change jobs/schedules, and then it’s like plugging a leak where loneliness gets in.