There’s many reasons why “therapists” did not work for me, and one of those reasons is what this guy mentions.
People think that going to see a therapist automatically means they are all good, qualified people and help you get BETTER, but I’ve been to many therapists and they do such a shitty job that I felt WAY WORSE after sessions. People think “just see a therapist” as if it’s an end-all be-all. Like oh look, there’s a SOLUTION and you just won’t take it. Then blame you if you don’t go or if the shitty therapists don’t help.
Many of those people are fucked up, and many of those people give TERRIBLE advice. Or were not helpful at all. Just look at the comments. That’s exactly what happened to me.
Plus the script they were taught to copy/paste/speak doesn’t work- aka “try journaling, yoga meditation, just think happy,” etc.
Sure, there are good therapist- few and far in between. But most of them are terrible.
Lookie here, everyone knows that education in the US has gone down the toilet, and part of that is bc teachers are paid crap in the US. So who do you get as teachers? BAD, SHITTY teachers is what you get. The SAME fucking thing applies for therapists. Most of those people (unless they’re in private practice for themselves) are underpaid and overloaded with cases. So you get shitty ass therapists. The ones that are in private practice, you need to have insurance, and the right insurance, which most people do not, and even then, they either are not accepting new patients or the wait list is YEARS long. Yes YEARS where I was to fucking see someone. And they wonder why people are so messed up? Why there’s so much depression and substance abuse and opiod epidemic and mass shootings. THIS IS WHY.
People need help and they don’t get any. Whether it’s mental health or physical health or help getting them back on their feet.
THERE IS LITTLE TO NO HELP in the US. And people scratch their heads and wonder why there’s so many suicides, substance abuse and mass shootings. Gee, I wonder why…
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I’ve had two. 2018, the first, and had to stop seeing her after 5 sessions because she reminded me of my mother, and I was overcome with anxiety and dread before every session. Plus, she didn’t seem to have a plan…about a month after I left, she announced her retirement. Go figure. The second, whom I’ve been with for over two years now, is a diamond in the rough. We “click.” She’s an ex cop and recovering addict, and reads me like a cheap book. She GETS me, and I have had benefitted from every session in one way or another. She knows how to make me slow down, rethink and re-frame the jumble of my mind. I genuinely got lucky with her.
“She’s an ex cop and recovering addict, and reads me like a cheap book.”
LOL. Ya lucky bastard haha. There’s very few ppl who say they’ve found a great therapist. Sure, these folks exist, but just how many of them are there?? I certainly have not come across one. -_-
I had to stop watching, it was bringing up so much about my prior career. I was on that track, I see now, to become a therapist, and because of my feelings about what most therapists actually do, I couldn’t become that.
One of the memories that came up was while I was in training to work for the state, as a case worker, which case workers do the work therapists are not willing to. Case workers make stuff actually happen. It can be beautiful and fulfilling work because of that. When I was in training, I suddenly found that I was way more assertive than the people around me. Throughout my career I’ve felt that I’m too assertive, I’m too willing to tank a relationship rather than my own health for the mental health system.
but I do argue on a point; sometimes dissociation is the best anyone can do with a situation. Would it be nice to be real about emotions and be on that constant growth curve? Sure, we’d all like to see it. But when you are surrounded by toxic people, when you CAN’T ESCAPE; dissociation isn’t just healthy, it might be the only thing keeping you alive.
but I have that perspective, that humility that; what I want, might be wrong. What I’m being told, might be wrong. However, it’s really hard to get ordinary people to talk about deep issues, so if a therapist is willing to be honest with me, I see it as something I can learn from, grow from.
because that’s supposed to be how therapy works, for the therapist, they grow from adapting their understanding to the way life works for you. It usually doesn’t work that way for a long list of reasons. but I find myself fascinated, by someone more passive, someone willing to take on more debt, and work within a system that I know is actively undermining them….
there’s something there. I haven’t figured out what yet, but it’s why I woke up early today to go to therapy. Not because I expected the therapist to be further along developmentally than me, but because I have meager hope that he can teach me something I don’t already know. and maybe he can’t, but I’m not ready to give it up.