I have controlling parents. Indirectly controlling, but controlling nonetheless. I’ve challenged the nature of their control, but when logic and reasoning fails to win my side of the argument, it is because they’ve hit me with the “because I am your mother”. “Because I am your father”.
Does the role or position of “parent” give them immunity?
Why do I still willingly give them this control? Is it because I am hopeful the control will be lessened as time follows? Or am I just am idiot?
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Good evening, Deathbycoffee (love the name!) I hope you find yourself in better times.
It’s difficult to speak on your situation when many of the details remain private. However, most of the time, people only have the power over us that we, ourselves, choose to give them. I admire that you stood up for yourself, even though it seems to have fallen on deaf ears. Maybe the next steps involve having a candid talk (when things are calm!) about not feeling heard. If you take that route, its wise to be willing to hear what they have to say in return. Doing so might answer some of these questions you have.
If they still aren’t willing to listen, if you think they truly are controlling, and if you’re able to as an adult (I don’t know your age, please excuse me), I’d consider getting a place for yourself.
You have value as a person, and it’s good that you feel frustrated about the way youre being treated, because it means that there are parts of yourself that you value, that are WORTH valuing. Hold onto that. The rest comes down to getting through circumstances. I, for one, will be here to listen if the circumstances get to be too much for you on your own. We all get overwhelmed sometimes.
Believe in your strength.
P.S. If you don’t live with your parents, Still consider that talk