I’m dreading going to class tomorrow.
Monday before class, a girl came up to me and started talking to me. I actually managed to hold a conversation with her for the 15 minutes we had before class started. She “ended up” inviting me to one of her upcoming shows. She even gave me a discount code and her instagram. I, like the dumbass I am, was ecstatic. I thought this could be my chance to make a friend.
Once I got home, I sent her a message on instagram. Just said she seemed very cool and I’d like to get to know her better. A few hours later, I checked. She’d read my message but never responded. I figured that she was busy and she’d get back to me later. It’s Tuesday night and still no response.
It’s started to sink in now that she probably didn’t want to get to know me and that she was probably just promoting herself. I feel like a moron. Getting all excited about something like that. I don’t know why I assumed she wanted to get to know me.
We’ve been in the same class for about a month now, but she decided now to talk to me when she conveniently has a show coming up? She’s a performer so I doubt she’s shy.
Maybe I’m being a pessimist. I doubt it though. We’ll just see tomorrow.
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Good luck to you. Did you try to follow up with her? It’s possible that she saw the message, got busy, and then forgot. Asserting yourself a little more just to be sure isn’t a bad thing. But also remember not to overdo it or anything and spam her. I really hope she genuinely wants to get to know you.
If you go to her show and give her some genuine, insightful praise, I guarantee that’ll be an inroad to making a friend. The key is it has to be a meaningful comment, like you really paid attention to her performance and not just her.
All performers, doesn’t matter how famous, appreciate it when someone sees the finery of their art. Because it’s extremely rare that someone has anything more to say than “great show” or “you’re awesome” or “I’m your #1 fan”.
Sure it’s very possible that she was just promoting herself, but even if that’s the case, you can always surprise her with something makes you stand out from the rest.
If youre a guy, then she likely thinks youre hitting on her. “Id like to get to know you better” is a phrase that suggests romantic interest. Id make sure she knows youre only interested in friendship.