I mean, yes, it’s much better to find your true love/partner or have real friendships. But sometimes, being alone keeps you alive. Watched this documentary today- there’s LOTS of documentaries like this where ppl are killed by their bfs/gfs, wives/husbands, family, etc. If you’re a loner, there’s less of that happening.
I mean yes, we do suffer from loneliness and depression, but it’s smarter NOT to get into a relationship with someone who is not good for you- the users/abusers/manipulators. And there are TONS of them out there, not just a “few bad apples” society wants you to think there are. And I don’t mean killers- there’s LOTS of bad ppl who aren’t killers- but that doesn’t mean they aren’t also POS’s who you should stay away from.
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Of all the murders, I mean among regular people not gangsters and criminals, vast majority are done by known and close person.
yup. so…i guess it’s best to NOT know anyone, eh? well i guess 1 point for us depressive lonely anti-social peeps O_o
Yeah. Between two people there is love but there is also hate, there is agreement but there is also disagreement. And if other side dominates, it leads to bad results. Wise men advice peace and stability of solitude over excitement of companionship.
Welp I hate & abuse myself worse than anyone could ever do to me and I’m hell bent on killing myself in a really violent way, so I guess in my case being alone is the worst option. Trapped in the body of my own abuser and murderer.
where does the self-hate originate from? what core issues? (aside from not being able to complete your invention).
It’s probably because I have a cursed brain that remembers bad experiences in painful detail. And the more I think about those details, the more I see what I did wrong, what I should’ve done, or not done.
It’s the same way you might resent someone from your past because you remember how they hurt you, exactly what they said, and it gets replayed over & over until you work yourself up into a total rage. Problem is I see that person every day in the mirror.
“the more I see what I did wrong, what I should’ve done, or not done.”
—been there, done that. are you also a perfectionist? perfectionists tend to dwell on the “coulda, woulda, shoulda’s”
–what’s the origin? childhood trauma or abuse (could be verbal abuse too)
i’m sure you’ve seen the movie “Sunshine of the Spotless Mind”?
Yup I love that movie. Also yes I’m an obsessive perfectionist, but the funny thing is it’s only in certain areas that are personal. But if I’m doing work for someone else, a job I don’t like or a boss I don’t respect, I can be sloppy as hell.
Idk where it all came from but since all my issues & disorders come from my shitty upbringing and clueless parents I’m sure that’s where self hatred began.
It’s weird.
I have good friends and family that I trust.
I feel like I’m the broken one.
Like a black sheep that can’t truly relate to my family members and friends.
I think I’ve been masking hard. It tends to come back when I’m alone. All the bad thoughts, the self flagellation…
I think I had the perfect person, maybe, but I was younger and naive and broke it off. She’s happily with someone else and we barely talk now. I do know the dating market in the US is total shit, and I honestly think I’d be taken advantage of unless I really fix myself.
Idk. I’m a mess mentally. I’m trying to fix myself, but I’m wondering if I’m breaking myself or my pysche further by doing so.