I think I’m being too much.
Had a long distance relationship a few years back. It was pretty serious. We joked about marriage and stuff, and in all honesty, I would probably marry her, but at the time, I was still young, and wasn’t really wanting to do that.
We really cared for one another, still do.
I have no money though, and no way to see her in person.
Halfway around the world from one another.
I broke it off initially, I didn’t want her to sit and wait for me, when there’s a good chance I’ll never meet her in person. I wanted her to improve her life.
She wound up moving forward.
We kept talking regardless.
We’re still very close after all this time.
She’s with someone else, and seems happy.
I’ve been supportive this whole time.
I’m happy for her, and this is someone I will always be there for.
I always worry about her still, but I feel like I want something that I may never be able to have with her again.
She does care about me, and appreciates that I never left her side even after the break up.
I know I’m important to her.
The problem is, there are times where barely hear from her. I worry if I don’t talk to her at all, weeks or even months will go by without hearing from her.
Am I doing too much? Have I not been giving her the proper space? I do care, I just wonder if I haven’t given myself a chance to try and figure myself out? I don’t know.
She is someone I truly love and care for. I know this woman will be a part of my life for the rest of my life, and she’s agreed. So why am I like this? Why can’t I just calm down and let things be?
To be clear, even if we don’t end up together in some capacity, I know we will, at the very least, have a lifelong friendship, and I can be okay with that.
I really suck at dating and relationships, if it’s not obvious already.
The funniest thing about all of this, is that I’m okay with staying totally single, but a part of me wants to get back together with her.
It’s a complicated situation, and I’m just trying to keep being good to her. I’m not sure what to do.
I know I’m weird, I have a lot of work to do on myself before even trying to put myself out there, and I don’t know if I’ll ever have a long serious relationship like that again.
I feel like I’m screwed in the dating world, probably will never get married/have kids.
Me with kids is laughable too.
Just one facet of my life I can’t really fix yet.
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Well, if you told her to move on, and she has, and she now has a bf, then she isn’t going to have “time” to talk to you the way you used to talk. Hopefully, she will still consider you a life-long friend, but usually when a girl or guy finds someone else, they don’t usually spend much time chatting with their ex.
Imagine the new bf’s scenario- you have a gf, and she’s constantly talking to her ex.
Imagine this scenario- you meet a girl, hit it off, spend lots of time with her, you’re exclusive, then she tells you all this time she’s been spending talking with her ex. You’d feel weirded out by that right?
It’s normal for her to have less and less contact with you.
Eternaldarkness is right. On one hand, nothing is inherently wrong with talking to her. But if she’s seeing someone else on the other side of the planet, she’s going to want to focus more time there.
I feel like an idiot when I text her sometimes. I do need to calm down with the texts.
I think I am trying to slow down with some of the things I used to spend a lot of time doing. Watching wrestling, gaming, etc.
I’m getting increasingly annoyed with myself overall.