Big Cities Kill Empathy

Why big cities kill empathy: The dark psychology of the bystander effect

I’ve only lived in big cities, tho I did live in a not as big city twice- first in a college town, and a few years ago in a city but it’s all spread out so you have to drive. It’s still hundreds of thousands of ppl, not like the 1500 ppl town the guy mentions.

Anyhow, maybe I haven’t lived to a “small enough” city (I have lived in over a dozen cities and states across the United States from east to west) but I have yet to see real community or niceness.

I mean, I think it is true, the larger the city, the more apathetic ppl become.

But do we have to go into tiny itty bitty towns in the middle of nowhere to actually see nice ppl? Cuz that doesn’t exist anymore. Even a small “town” has like 10K ppl.

I’ve also driven cross country before so I’ve stopped in a lot of “small towns“ along the way, and no, some of these small towns contain racists that want to lynch you if you are not white. I’m not white. And no, I’m not black either.

But these ppl were VERY unfriendly to me. Even stopping to get GAS for a few min and I felt like I was in danger in some of these “small towns.”

Where in the USA are these so-called nice empathic ppl in “small towns?”

I’m not sure even small towns contain nice empathetic ppl anymore. And no, racists who are super “nice” to other white ppl don’t count.

Edit:
I think nice, empathetic people do still exist – in other countries. But not in the USA.

Why are Americans such particularly shitty people? I’m not saying there are great people in every single country- there are shitty ppl everywhere- But America ranks pretty low in terms of how nice/caring/empathetic/caring we are compared to other countries.

Other countries have communities- even in cities. Americans have a “community” of just “I” and “me.” And no, Americans don’t even like their own family.