Why are people, and by that I mean Americans specifically, so heartless?
There’s a reason why SO many people wind up as alcoholics, drug addicts, porn stars, strippers, etc. Most of these ppl grew up with no parents or abusive parents, were SAed or raped, or grew up in poverty. Most of these ppl had little to no chance at a normal or fair life. Yet the world CRUCIFIES them.
It’s not like they grew up and become serial killers. But even then, serial killers are made not born (very few are born evil, the vast majority are made evil by their circumstances). But anyhow- drug addicts, porn stars, strippers, alcoholics- they’re not committing crimes or doing anything “wrong.” Yes I get the porn and stripping industry is sleazy, but it’s not like 98% of these women WANT to be in that industry- most had to do it in order to survive.
Why is it that I’m like one of the FEW ppl who understand, and feel for these ppl? They were victims- most of them starting at a very young age. You can’t blame these ppl for doing the best they can to survive. Yet society chooses to crucify them instead of looking into the ROOT OF THE PROBLEM- which is abusive parents, broken homes, poverty, lack of social safety network, etc. It’s so easy to vilify people- ESPECIALLY ppl who grew up in privileged lives- which includes everyone born into a middle class family- people who have NEVER had to face poverty, lack of heat, lack of food, lack of proper health care, lack of opportunities, lack of security, and most of all- lack of parental love.
WHY is it that society ALWAYS blames the victims? It’s so shitty and lazy for ppl to point fingers at them and say- ” it’s all that person’s fault”- when most of them grew up in shit conditions in shit lives- most have been SAed and raped since the age of 6, or beaten and abused since the age of 4, etc.
Almost all of these ppl were born into these shit conditions. How do you expect these ppl to function when they’ve been abused since they were little? And grew up in poverty? How does one escape that? And how does one grow up sane and healthy given their shit environments?
When you grow up poor with no opportunities, and abused, your future is very bleak. Life is over before it even began. It’s like being in a boat with a giant hole and asking the person to row to land and dock with all the yachts when you don’t even have an oar.
Why am I the ONLY one (or few % of ppl) who care and don’t wholly blame the victims? I mean sure, there is SOME “blame” but these ppl tried best they could given how fucked up they were.
I get that most ppl don’t grow up poor and abused, but you don’t have to be in order to have something called EMPATHY or SYMPATHY. Or even just UNDERSTANDING. It boggles my mind that at least 80% of all humans do not. And just point the finger at the victims and act snooty and holier than thou like they’re SO much better. Which IMO they are not.
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Yes, I get she’s in the porn industry, but that doesn’t mean she was “bad” and “deserved” it.
I met her once actually at an MMA event at a photo op (back when she was dating Tito Ortiz).
Granted it was like 2s but she seemed nice.
Certainly seems nicer than a lot of ppl I know IRL- you know, all the “respectable” ppl with normal jobs who are snobby and judgey AF and think they’re better than these “lowly” people.
Another tragic story:
Also- why do I have such a bleeding heart?
Is it that I care TOO much? Or that society cares TOO little?
Personally, I think I am “normal” in this regard, and that the issue is that Americans care TOO LITTLE about others.
Isn’t that the problem with society? If people cared more for others, life wouldn’t be like this.
Am I the one that is “weird” or is the rest of society just too callous?
A part of me wishes I wasn’t so nice and caring about others. I would be SO much less depressed if I didn’t give a shit about anyone or care about things like “justice.”