i can hold it back for a week or two then like now it just all comes out. fuck life. -_- i wish i can just walk out of the earth, if it were only that easy, but everytime i try…obviously i fail :/
physically? or weak, as in to cry means you are a weak person?
if it’s the second one, crying does not make one a weak person. Maybe you are brought up to think it is, like I was. If I cried, I got slapped into action. But actually, allowing yourself to be vulnerable is a strength. I cannot cry very easily at all. I find crying to be very pure and good for the soul. It’s cleansing almost, and can be a beautiful thing, allows you to see the world more vibrantly at times. It’s also an emotion that needs to be let out.
I wish I could cry sometimes.
@mimsicle: it is the second one, and when i cry in front of others im screamed at for being weak and i personally think it to. i dont see crying as a strength in any way, though i wish i could cry more and be okay with it i hold it in and comes out at random moments and puts me thru pure regret
oh donnie, I don’t know why, but I am quite fond of your weird and wonderful ways.
fakingit – I think, if you couldn’t cry at all, you would miss being able to – you wouldn’t feel strong. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable IS in fact a strength.. People who are all ‘i’m hardcore, I never cry, I am strong etc etc’ I find they are weak people actually. Only, they come across as strong. fake it till you make it. pretend you are ok with it. when you cry, instead of saying to yourself ‘oh my god I cried, I am so weak, I can’t handle it’ etc, say to yourself ‘oh fucking well, I cried, big deal, and hey, I needed that cry, it felt bloody good to let it all out’
even if you don’t believe it, change your thoughts.
I have had to work on many of my thoughts, and faking it at times actually helped me make it.
As for being screamed at for crying, I don’t agree with that, and whoever screams at you for crying is obviously very insecure, and terrified of ‘weakening’ therefore can’t see someone else weaken. They are the weak ones, so scared of normal, natural emotions.
@fakingit – Crying is in no way weak. Bottling it up? That’s being weak. Crying just means you have a heart. Crying just means that you care. I personally think that it’s okay to cry. As long as it’s not out in public. Then that’s just plain embarrassing. So just don’t bottle it up. (My thought)
omg the person who screams at me is my dad and he crys more then me!
@donnie: if mimsicle is right then simply cuz people are cruel to me (as in family) they make it hell
@bluehappiness: ok well il just say it: back in 1-5th grade id cry OVER EVERYTHIN someone looked at me in “not so kind” way id just burst into tears. someone told on me yup id be crying a teacher put me in “time out” yeah i got kicked in the halls for crying to much. think of somethingi probably cryed bout it now i just think im just an idiot and worse then i am if i cry bout aything til it just eats inside me and i have no choice
@fakingit – Crying is something you should do on your own. I mean locked up in your room or something. Only then is it okay to cry. Because as u know, people judge each other on everything
@donnie: 15 no impossible to get over aything @bluehappiness: yes that true, and im always reminded now how fucked i am. to cry in public which now i really dont do i barely do it alone cuz i judge me!
Re crying. I have completely lost the ability to cry since I have been on antidepressants (citalopram SSRI). I really miss it and actually envy lots of people here for that ability! I used to cry buckets when I was younger. Even up to two years ago, but now I feel all cried out and can’t shed a tear over even the saddest movie. I’m also post-menopausal, but I don’t know if that’s got anything to do with it. I would just say, lucky you! It’s an outlet and a visible sign of your pain that others can respond to by offering comfort. Sometimes that’s nice. Other times you want to hide your tears and that’s OK too.
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What’s wrong with crying? Let it out I say, don’t hold back..
@mimsicle: crying makes me feel weak.
Then stop cryin
physically? or weak, as in to cry means you are a weak person?
if it’s the second one, crying does not make one a weak person. Maybe you are brought up to think it is, like I was. If I cried, I got slapped into action. But actually, allowing yourself to be vulnerable is a strength. I cannot cry very easily at all. I find crying to be very pure and good for the soul. It’s cleansing almost, and can be a beautiful thing, allows you to see the world more vibrantly at times. It’s also an emotion that needs to be let out.
I wish I could cry sometimes.
*were brought up
Is it really crying that is making you think ‘fuck life’
Are you aware of what you are crying about? Where is the sadness coming from?
@mimsicle: it is the second one, and when i cry in front of others im screamed at for being weak and i personally think it to. i dont see crying as a strength in any way, though i wish i could cry more and be okay with it i hold it in and comes out at random moments and puts me thru pure regret
Are you fe male.? Joke it’s ok to cry. it’s good to cry. omg your like huam
no i just hate life and fuck life cuz its full of hell no matter what
Why.?
Tell. dare you.
@donnie: tell what?
oh donnie, I don’t know why, but I am quite fond of your weird and wonderful ways.
fakingit – I think, if you couldn’t cry at all, you would miss being able to – you wouldn’t feel strong. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable IS in fact a strength.. People who are all ‘i’m hardcore, I never cry, I am strong etc etc’ I find they are weak people actually. Only, they come across as strong. fake it till you make it. pretend you are ok with it. when you cry, instead of saying to yourself ‘oh my god I cried, I am so weak, I can’t handle it’ etc, say to yourself ‘oh fucking well, I cried, big deal, and hey, I needed that cry, it felt bloody good to let it all out’
even if you don’t believe it, change your thoughts.
I have had to work on many of my thoughts, and faking it at times actually helped me make it.
As for being screamed at for crying, I don’t agree with that, and whoever screams at you for crying is obviously very insecure, and terrified of ‘weakening’ therefore can’t see someone else weaken. They are the weak ones, so scared of normal, natural emotions.
I think he is asking why you hate life, and wants you to tell..
daring you to tell even..
@fakingit – Crying is in no way weak. Bottling it up? That’s being weak. Crying just means you have a heart. Crying just means that you care. I personally think that it’s okay to cry. As long as it’s not out in public. Then that’s just plain embarrassing. So just don’t bottle it up. (My thought)
fakingit . are you just bictin about your sis.?
omg the person who screams at me is my dad and he crys more then me!
@donnie: if mimsicle is right then simply cuz people are cruel to me (as in family) they make it hell
@donnie: nope im mad at her but my bf got her to be a lil nicer
Is your sis a B.? what’s with.
@bluehappiness: ok well il just say it: back in 1-5th grade id cry OVER EVERYTHIN someone looked at me in “not so kind” way id just burst into tears. someone told on me yup id be crying a teacher put me in “time out” yeah i got kicked in the halls for crying to much. think of somethingi probably cryed bout it now i just think im just an idiot and worse then i am if i cry bout aything til it just eats inside me and i have no choice
@donnie: she demands and if i dont follow her “rules” i get beat. YES SHE IS A *****
So your age now.? Get over it.? maybe
@fakingit – Crying is something you should do on your own. I mean locked up in your room or something. Only then is it okay to cry. Because as u know, people judge each other on everything
@donnie: 15 no impossible to get over aything @bluehappiness: yes that true, and im always reminded now how fucked i am. to cry in public which now i really dont do i barely do it alone cuz i judge me!
Re crying. I have completely lost the ability to cry since I have been on antidepressants (citalopram SSRI). I really miss it and actually envy lots of people here for that ability! I used to cry buckets when I was younger. Even up to two years ago, but now I feel all cried out and can’t shed a tear over even the saddest movie. I’m also post-menopausal, but I don’t know if that’s got anything to do with it. I would just say, lucky you! It’s an outlet and a visible sign of your pain that others can respond to by offering comfort. Sometimes that’s nice. Other times you want to hide your tears and that’s OK too.
Crying is good. Zx