A truly nice person entered her email and has chatted to me over several weeks. I value her opinion and to be honest she has been exemplary. However I don’t think she or others understand the plight of some human beings on here. It is a passion for them to be honest and that is commendable. I cannot fault this person. Except to say that when I need to chat most they are not there. I am not asking for a relationship, just a friend who I can contact when I need to chat. There are few/very few who can do this. I have worked in the social care industry, yet I would gladly die tomorrow and probably will soon (Helium hood method, I think is best) read the final exit book latest edition. So please if you are going to give out your website/email address then you have to take the incongruent and disfunctional nature of the people on here. Otherwise it’s just a hobby to you and you are causing more damage to vulnerable people. So Please be sensible an think seriously about what you offer. Many people on this site need just a chat or reassurance, that can make so much of a difference. Just be prepared for random emails and be professioanl about it. If you want to help then that is great, but don’t do it part-time, you are only making things worse to vulnerable people. So please be professional and treat this iste as a cry from desperate people who have real lives and need help. Do not see them as a project and don’t intervene unless you ccan commit support unlimitlessly. Otherwise just let people do as they wish. It is wrong to raise peoples’ hopes just to let them down. In my experience people will randomly text or emial you. So if you want to help be prepared for that. I say this on behalf of the good people on here.
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Apoligies for spelling mistakes, but these are real peoples lives. So please i ask you, if you are going to give advice forget the adhoc diatribes and be prepared for a long and difficult haul. People don’t come on here for a whim. They are desperate and need valuable attention. SO don’t promise to save or relive them from their misery. Only do it if you can afford the time and effort. Hopefully I speak for all those in need and misery. Good luck to you all and me. Also if you want to ctry suicide just please make sure you do it properly and with the best information. Your life is yours and your choice. Good luck
People (humans) are not a perfect being.
who can do 24-hours of what *You* want them to do.
Even You yourself is not perfect.
Our society is often messed-up because they think they can achieve and seek “perfection”, while the truth is it’s only an illusion. There’s never “perfection” in this life.
But what one should try to strive is for beauty, not perfection.
Although “perfection” often points us towards SOMETHING better, and we can choose to regard and acknowledge the ‘signs’ of it.
Also, many people here are also suicidal and have their own life/problems.
Reality (real life) is hard for most people.
They probably can’t be for you 24-hours.
So as long as they’re willing to reply, even though only for a short time, as long as they’re leaving a good advice, cure, or marks that can’t be easily forgotten, then we should be grateful for their (ie: “strangers”) helps, whom do CARE to take some of their time to help a “stranger”, whereas sometimes even the real-life people close to you in your life don’t even bother to listen or help you.
Hi Niki, that’s erm, a highly articulate outburst. Are you a counsellor by any chance? I am being flippant, if you did not get that. It has not escaped me that people on here are suicidal, for example the site is called “the suicide project”. I think you misunderstand me. Of course everyone has their own life to lead, even desperately unhappy people, who live in continual emotional torment. The point I was making is don’t profess to be a saviour or consider your words to lead someone to re-evaluate their life by engaging in a few emails or texts. Because, and trust me on this and the best social scientists in the world, it takes time and commitment to alter someone’s thought process. You can read about CBT or any therapeutical psychological endeavour. It takes time and many sessions and even then it has statistically only a 33% chance of success. That’s what I have read anyway. Also I have never heard of a cure for depression or any mental health problem, maybe you could elucidate me on this.
The point is if you really want help someone who desperately needs it then you have to commit some time and effort. Otherwise what is the point. It has been proven by many authors and trials that short-term bullit points and consultations don’t work. It’s just a fact!!! Also I don’t know what you mean by “Marks”. People should only be grateful if they receive benefit, not because it is polite. So if you want to help someone, then do it with vigour and passion, not just a few words. To be honest I think it’s quite insencative of you to state that people want 24 hour maintanence. In my experience, which concurs with yours, most people need a depth of assistance. That is the medical model and it seems to be true. Otherwise why would there be sites like this or the mental health industry. I wonder what people would say if they went to a counsellor and were told “be grateful that i am bothering with you and be glad that I have given you my time, see you later when I can be bothered”. So all I am saying is that in my experience do not get involved with someone who is in dire needs, if you can’t engage in a meaningful and lasting process. But hey maybe your right and the rest of the scientists are wrong.
im a social work student. i’m here if you want to talk.
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