I’m going to keep reading and commenting on the stories on this site, but…so many of the people posting here are in so much pain, and…not knowing how to help just hurts so much. Â 🙁
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to cope with this?
The stories on here make me want to curl up into a little ball and cry and cry… Â 🙁
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I think accepting that you can’t help sometimes helps the pain lessen. The best thing you can do is just be supportive and listen. I find most people on here have tried numerous things to improve their feelings/ mindsets/ lives… so listening or offering encouraging words is probably the best you could do…
Yeah, you’re right… But…do you think anyone will be mad I can’t do more?
It hurts us not to know how to help ourslves. I don’t think anyone would get mad at you for just being there to listen. That all most can do. Don’t judge and just listen.
Hi blacklight. I don’t think anyone will be mad at you for offering helpful advise and suggestions. Just don’t post anything potentially hurtful. You can’t expect to save everyone, but if you can help just one person, then you’ve done something good. One of the sad realities of being a member of a suicide web forum is that some people will take their lives, but hopefully most will keep on fighting.
blacklight… when someone gets mad at you on a suicide forum… those are their issues at work… they are already troubled most likely… or at least in extreme pain. People like to blame others and not take responsibility… It brings some temporary relief.
It would be a different situation say if you were a friend to someone who made rely on you and then turned your back on a promise you made to a person. That would be shirking a responsibility. That would be causing pain. In this case, you appear to be a good Samaritan looking to offer some comfort to those who may or may not appreciate it.
*It would be a different situation say if you were to befriend someone who insisted you rely on them to then turned your back on a promise you made to a person.
(I’m half asleep and sick… it’s hard to edit… hope that was clearer)
Thank you both for the good advice! 🙂
Yes, that was clearer. Hope you feel better soon bbbaron.
To Empty Anna: Thanks for commenting! Not judging is harder for me than listening, but…I’m generally pretty good at both. Your name is so sad… 🙁 I’ll do my best to listen and not judge if you’d like to talk, however.