I haven’t been able to achieve anything the last few years. Â No job, failing health, I don’t care for life anymore, no boyfriend, heck- I can’t seem to make a single friend who truly wants to be with me the last few years.
I am unable to achieve happiness. Â I hate my life, I hate that I haven’t been able to accomplish anything, I hate that I can’t even get people to like me. Â :'(
And seeing everyone else who has got a life and has friends and family who love them just annoys the crap out of me! Â Why can most everyone else achieve that but not me? Â I am so tired of trying…
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I’ll tell you the secret to it… Love. Simply remove all the hate from your heart.
I am exactly like you, except that i’m a boy, and i understand what you mean.
You can email me and talk to me if you want.
lmzf23@gmail.com
It’s best not to look at what other people have. it will only make you bitter.
Have you tried making friends via a meetup group?
Nobody is perfect. Even seeing people with family and friends. There is a story behind to everything. I used to have best friends but in the end they ended up leaving me. I had enough of labeling one of my friends to be a best friend because of the past. I even lost trust in making friends. Now all I beg is to have at least one who I can share my feelings to. I have a table of friends but we hardly hang out of school. And when we get that chance… They end up leaving within the next hour. Your not a failure. Success and happiness can mean a whole lot of things. You just have to truly see what’s good that you have right now. Things are easily taken for granted. Also making friends is tough. But for now talking to someone even at school, work or on public transportation can help and really cheer up your day. I take the bus and whenever I’m down a stranger would talk to me not knowing about how I felt. Even saying hello can put a smile on your face. Really look deep into the positive side. It’s super easy to see the downfall, I’m also experiencing this.. But keep living.
KEEP TRYING it may sound hard because you have tried before and before that but just listen, this is coming from me, a cutter that has lost so much. life has it’s flaws yes and yeah every once in a while life will knock you on your ass. but you have to get up and think “i can do this” and you will. just please, keep living.
ktsh013- And how do I do that? It would be easy if I could just magically “think positive”, have hope, and stop hating the world, but it’s easier said than done. Believe me, I’ve tried. But it’s hard not to hate life given the things that’s happened/been done to me. And it’s easy to say “just move on” but sometimes that’s hard/not possible if the effects affect you (physically) to this day.
one_day- Yes, I’ve tried meeting people and making friends through meetup. I’ve tried and tried and tried for the last 4 years. And NIL. Starting to think NO ONE likes me.
Aftershock_Hate- The problem is that I don’t have any motivation/reason to keep going and getting up and trying and soooo tired of fighting (but I am not suicidal at the moment).
The secret to making friends is making people feel good about themselves. People want to be around people that make them feel good. People DON’T want to be around people who only obsess about themselves.
So when you try to make friends, do you show interest in them? Do you try to make them feel good?
Quite often, being liked is more about the other person than it is about you.
one_day- Yes, I do show interest in others. I do not obsess about myself or talk about myself (unless asked). I hide my depression from most people so no one knows about it, other than a few people (and the internet :p).
But yes, you are correct. The secret to making friends is about making people feel good about themselves. I guess I’m not making people feel good about themselves huh? :/
I think it’s something you can learn. If you are shy it makes things harder, but you can learn to overcome this. Pay attention to people. Compliment them when you notice something nice about them. If they are having problems, help them. Remember them. Make them laugh. Be genuine in your interest or them. It’s a social skill that you can learn, just like any other