Can I have some advice on how to tell a friend I have self harmed, and had depression?
I have tried before, in person and online, but one person ignored me and the other time I physically couldn’t get my words out. I have severe anxiety and have literally never talked to a single soul about troubles in my life willingly.
It is now, as I’m really trying to recover, that I think I can, and should talk to my closest friend. Thanks.
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Maybe you could write it down on a notecard or something like that? Its scary to say these kinds of things out loud…I believe my best friend found out because he saw the cuts on my arm…I told everyone they were from my pet rats, but later when we were emailing I explained they weren’t.
Just say something like “Hey ___, I think you need to know that I feel really low in life, and I cut myself because …. ” Like I said, you can text them, email, IM or just write it down.
I think you should just keep it to yourself.Only speak to a professional about these issues or just maybe your immediate family.Outsiders don’t need to know these things,they will only judge you or treat you differently.People can be really mean
That is so true bigrich. I’m coming to find that people really don’t seem to care about how you feel. Pretty much the response I get when I try to get advice from people I care about is ‘you should talk to a therapist’
I don’t give a fuck what a therapist says I want the advice of people I trust and respect, not people that are paid to listen.
Bigrich has a point, but if you love and trust this friend, and they love you, it makes everything better. Luckily, I had good friends and when I told them they were so supportive. I wrote it down to the particular person I was telling it to, because every time I tried to say it, I couldn’t. I wrote mine like a letter. I hope this helps 🙂 And don’t not tell them, you need someone to support you.