I was molested. It makes me feel like a whore. Disgusting. Absolutely worthless, and I want to tell my best friend so badly. But I don’t know if it will actually do me any good. It was years ago, what do I expect her to say?
Friends aren’t really trained on what to say or how to help in those situations..it’d probably be best to talk to a professional so you can sort out these feelings and maybe get a fresh perspective on how to view it since you were the victim of something terrible…it actually doesn’t say anything about you. It just says a lot about whoever harmed you.
Ramsay, I Am So Sorry This Happened. You Are Not Disgusting, You Are Not A Whore, And You Are Priceless.. If You Want To Tell Your Friend, Make Sure She’ll Be Understanding. She Could Offer The Support You’re Looking For. I Do Recommend Seeking Professional Care, It Helped Me. Are You Going To Be Okay?
please talk to someone you can trust, even if it is a school teacher (if you still go to school), a sibling (elder one if you have preferably, and one whom you can trust) , or a parent, or even your best friend. tell some one.
please don’t keep this to yourself as it is just going to make it worst.. I have been through something similar and just taking to someone really helped to let go of some of the pain.
this incident doesn’t make you a WHORE or worthless. you don’t have to be disgusted with yourself either, am sure you are a nice person. Some times bad things just happen to good people.. please keep faith in what ever god you believe in.
Its the one who harmed you who is worthless.
I was molested, too, and I can say that telling someone about it helps. I feel much better knowing that I’m not the only one who knows what happened (apart from uh, the other person who has to know, too… obviously). even if I still haven’t said too much about it. Just yeah, that person should be trustworthy or something. or if you think you might need therapy and feel like it, try it…
You expect your friend to say the truth (as all friends should): You did not deserve that experience and you are not at fault. Allow me? You are NOT at fault, you did NOT invite it, and you are NOTa whore!
That said, hurting is normal and I invite you to do so freely.
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Friends aren’t really trained on what to say or how to help in those situations..it’d probably be best to talk to a professional so you can sort out these feelings and maybe get a fresh perspective on how to view it since you were the victim of something terrible…it actually doesn’t say anything about you. It just says a lot about whoever harmed you.
Ramsay, I Am So Sorry This Happened. You Are Not Disgusting, You Are Not A Whore, And You Are Priceless.. If You Want To Tell Your Friend, Make Sure She’ll Be Understanding. She Could Offer The Support You’re Looking For. I Do Recommend Seeking Professional Care, It Helped Me. Are You Going To Be Okay?
Tell her, you never know how good a friend is till they have to see you at you worst
please talk to someone you can trust, even if it is a school teacher (if you still go to school), a sibling (elder one if you have preferably, and one whom you can trust) , or a parent, or even your best friend. tell some one.
please don’t keep this to yourself as it is just going to make it worst.. I have been through something similar and just taking to someone really helped to let go of some of the pain.
this incident doesn’t make you a WHORE or worthless. you don’t have to be disgusted with yourself either, am sure you are a nice person. Some times bad things just happen to good people.. please keep faith in what ever god you believe in.
Its the one who harmed you who is worthless.
I was molested, too, and I can say that telling someone about it helps. I feel much better knowing that I’m not the only one who knows what happened (apart from uh, the other person who has to know, too… obviously). even if I still haven’t said too much about it. Just yeah, that person should be trustworthy or something. or if you think you might need therapy and feel like it, try it…
You expect your friend to say the truth (as all friends should): You did not deserve that experience and you are not at fault. Allow me? You are NOT at fault, you did NOT invite it, and you are NOTa whore!
That said, hurting is normal and I invite you to do so freely.
PS: FWIW: it is your abuser whose soul was sold, making THEM the whore!