I’ve been thinking a lot lately about life and everything that goes in it. I have come to find that when we focus too much on everything that is going on at a time when things seeem to there darkest, it is very hard to see the light. However, if we take a step back, take a deep breath, and look at things from a different prospective everything seems to change and we see things differently.
Sometimes you just have to look at it from a new pair of eyes and see a different prospective.
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I disagree…. No matter how I view my particular situation it remains the same. Its like a house fire…. In what way does your perspective of the fire change the fire? Will the sudden change in perspective stop it from burning down your house? nope….I don’t think my perspective matters as much as the fire or problem itself. Some say the glass is half empty ….some say the glass is half full…..I say regardless…..you’re still only at half capacity….rather its half empty or half full doesn’t change the fact you still only have half.
The problem is that most of us regard our perspectives as reality, instead of as our judgements about an incomplete data set. It’s incomplete because it’s easy to delete data that doesn’t align with our opinions. Perhaps you’ve never jumped to conclusions, but for those of us that have, we may try to suspend our negative conclusions because we know additional information may provide a different possibilities. But the ego is so invested in being “right” that it will dismiss new information and become defensive because it so strongly identifies with its judgements.
We all know people for whom it is their way or the highway. There’s a place for being decisive and taking action, but folks who can’t consider new info are tyrants in the workplace and frequently leave a trail of carnage in their personal relationships.
There is always more information to take into consideration. Defensiveness can be Oa good instrument for measuring how attached we are to a certain point of view. But the good news, we can all learn new strategies and consider new information.
Here’s a starter kit:
“I’ll have to think about that.”