I have that happen sometimes but idk. I have the things I like and it’s hard to talk to people that don’t like the same things as me or have the same views. Most of the time I’m just quiet because I figure they wouldn’t be interested in what I want to talk about.
We have a shit load in common. We like the same things, there’s never a problem with coming up with topics to talk about, there’s never awkwardness. It’s just people suddenly stop talking to me. Like, yeah, I understand people have fucking lives and I get it sometimes people go through shit, but I didn’t initiate a conversation with anyone over text and no one answered/replied/initiated a conversation with me. It always feels like I’m putting all the effort into the friendship and it feels like no one cares and they don’t like me, they just like the idea of me. Now, you might wonder why I didn’t initiate a conversation and then start to yell at the people who didn’t initiate the conversation (it sounds hypocritical, but hear me out). I wanted to see how many people would actually talk to me WITHOUT ME starting the conversation. It seems like I am always starting the conversation so I decided to see how many people actually cared enough to initiate a conversation with me. Zero.
Heros rise made a good point. Do these people maybe realize you have little in common?
Also, I knew one guy who would get upset when gradually his friends stopped texting etc but he never made a effort always expected them too. Not saying this is the case just trying to look at different possibilities.
Would you talk with me? I would be honored to talk with you! My work schedule make SP very difficult these days. However, email works well. How is the relationship between your sister and you these days?
I don’t know anymore. I don’t know anything anymore. Everything seems unreal. Everything seems fake. I don’t know if the relationship is getting better or worse.
Ah same here. It happens to me time to time, but I have honestly learn not to care or take anything too personal anymore.
People come and go, and that’s a really sad fact about life but something we have to accept. We also have to put into context other people’s life and priorities. Things change, people change, people get older, start careers or families, move to new cities and schools, and others have drastic changes to their life literally over night like death and divorce. But we cannot be selfish when they choose to distance themselves and move on with their lives in pursuit of other goals or interests. We can only wish them the best in life, appreciate our time together and move on.
Remember, a friend leaving only leaves room for a new one. So go out there and find more meaningful friends who will always be there for you. Like lost love, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
I realize people come and go. I get it. I understand, but that doesn’t make the loss any harder because I don’t think you know how many people fucking leave me. You don’t know how many times I sat in front of my mirror looking at myself wondering if I was going to ever be good enough for these people. You don’t know how many fucking times I wished I could just find a friend that actually fucking cared about me. You don’t know how many fucking times I cried myself to sleep because the god damn loneliness.
I fucking realize people move and change but what hurts me the fucking most is that no matter what happens to me I will ALWAYS be there for people, but other people, no, they don’t do that. They don’t think that I’m good enough for their fucking love.
A friend of mine would never leave me for a new one.
Letitgo, we are all on this path filled with the unknown. Everyone had a different capacity for understanding the effects their actions will have on others. You love deeply and crave stability in a friendship. You may connect on a much deeper level with others in a much shorter amout of time due in part by the challenges of your past and your reflection on it. Your “friends ” are just that too. Trying to figure out life on a day by day basis. Sometimes we inadvertently injury others on the way.
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Why?
i dont know why
maybe i scare them off
maybe i get to obnoxious
i dont know but whatever it is eventually everyone leaves me
Can you elaborate?
I have that happen sometimes but idk. I have the things I like and it’s hard to talk to people that don’t like the same things as me or have the same views. Most of the time I’m just quiet because I figure they wouldn’t be interested in what I want to talk about.
I’ve learned to enjoy the solitude.
We have a shit load in common. We like the same things, there’s never a problem with coming up with topics to talk about, there’s never awkwardness. It’s just people suddenly stop talking to me. Like, yeah, I understand people have fucking lives and I get it sometimes people go through shit, but I didn’t initiate a conversation with anyone over text and no one answered/replied/initiated a conversation with me. It always feels like I’m putting all the effort into the friendship and it feels like no one cares and they don’t like me, they just like the idea of me. Now, you might wonder why I didn’t initiate a conversation and then start to yell at the people who didn’t initiate the conversation (it sounds hypocritical, but hear me out). I wanted to see how many people would actually talk to me WITHOUT ME starting the conversation. It seems like I am always starting the conversation so I decided to see how many people actually cared enough to initiate a conversation with me. Zero.
You should contact some and ask. Its something you need to know.
i did
they didnt say much to me
That’s sad :/
yup sooo
You’ve been here a long time, yes? We all talk to you here. Always. 🙂
Heros rise made a good point. Do these people maybe realize you have little in common?
Also, I knew one guy who would get upset when gradually his friends stopped texting etc but he never made a effort always expected them too. Not saying this is the case just trying to look at different possibilities.
I’ve expected a little out of them and I’ve talked to some of them about this, but they always brush it off and keep doing the same damn thing.
Lettigo,
Would you talk with me? I would be honored to talk with you! My work schedule make SP very difficult these days. However, email works well. How is the relationship between your sister and you these days?
I don’t know anymore. I don’t know anything anymore. Everything seems unreal. Everything seems fake. I don’t know if the relationship is getting better or worse.
Ah same here. It happens to me time to time, but I have honestly learn not to care or take anything too personal anymore.
People come and go, and that’s a really sad fact about life but something we have to accept. We also have to put into context other people’s life and priorities. Things change, people change, people get older, start careers or families, move to new cities and schools, and others have drastic changes to their life literally over night like death and divorce. But we cannot be selfish when they choose to distance themselves and move on with their lives in pursuit of other goals or interests. We can only wish them the best in life, appreciate our time together and move on.
Remember, a friend leaving only leaves room for a new one. So go out there and find more meaningful friends who will always be there for you. Like lost love, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
I realize people come and go. I get it. I understand, but that doesn’t make the loss any harder because I don’t think you know how many people fucking leave me. You don’t know how many times I sat in front of my mirror looking at myself wondering if I was going to ever be good enough for these people. You don’t know how many fucking times I wished I could just find a friend that actually fucking cared about me. You don’t know how many fucking times I cried myself to sleep because the god damn loneliness.
I fucking realize people move and change but what hurts me the fucking most is that no matter what happens to me I will ALWAYS be there for people, but other people, no, they don’t do that. They don’t think that I’m good enough for their fucking love.
A friend of mine would never leave me for a new one.
Letitgo, we are all on this path filled with the unknown. Everyone had a different capacity for understanding the effects their actions will have on others. You love deeply and crave stability in a friendship. You may connect on a much deeper level with others in a much shorter amout of time due in part by the challenges of your past and your reflection on it. Your “friends ” are just that too. Trying to figure out life on a day by day basis. Sometimes we inadvertently injury others on the way.
letitgo i remember you from when you first joined and posted daily <3