There seems to be two kinds of people in this life the users and the used. If you let them, people will use you until you are nothing more than a dirty torn rag bone heap on the floor.
Unfortunately people are selfish… They will not think of your feelings over their own self gratification. Even those who portray a sense of depth, they’re STILL thinking what they can get out of you.
IDK it seems to be human nature.
That’s why I live far away, where no one can bother me.
You have to get tough or get beaten. I stopped being ‘vulnerable’ a while ago. Now I look like the kinda girl you wouldn’t wanna mess with. It works… Most guys are scared of me… And the ones who aren’t!? Should be.
What’s the point of living then? I am what I am. Is it my fault that others choose to too use what I have to give? They can’t beat me, I don’t feel vulnerable, just at some point I stopped feeling like letting them win bettered them… Does that make sense at all?
There is no point in living other than the one you give it. If others choose to use you there’s not much you can do about their choice, but it’s your choice to let them keep on doing it, or just marking limits, and if they don’t care about those, ditching them (the people who use you, not your limits).
There is nothing wrong in having something to give and giving it to others, but it’s also good to be wise about it and choosing what to give depending on who you give it to (sorry if that line doesn’t make sense, my english sucks at times). Regardless of common things here and there, yeah, not all people are the same (even if at times it looks like that).
Sure, but, I’m empty. Still, others attach to mine outlets and suck. I just don’t know if that is enough anymore. And as long as they suck, I am unable to show how empty I am. Ending things seems better than showing my emptiness. Ugh, then they would try to “help” me. Not in the way I need.
A friend (well, ex friend) told me once that the only way you are ever going to live in peace and without so many heartbreaks from people’s actions is to have no expectations. I don’t know if he was right at all (a lifetime of expecting nothing from people around you sounds awful), but it has helped me a bit on the long run.
I was remembered that because of your line “they would try to help me, not in the way i need”. Tbh, (in my opinion) you can’t expect that from anyone, specially if you don’t show them what you really need. Maybe they keep on taking because they just see you don’t need anything and that you are stronger than them and if they saw the opposite they would act different. Maybe they are just parasites and they will bleed you dry, who knows. The fact that you say they will try to help give a hint tho.
Not that anything i said is any solution or that i’m right, but sometimes our own view of the trees doesn’t allow us to see the forest.
Unfortunately we all have to be less trusting of people in this world. It’s a hard fact to deal with but it’s the best way to protect ourselves but that doesn’t mean we have to block everyone out. To be honest I think anyone knows the point of living. I suppose it depends what you believe in. You have to find your own point of living which I personally haven’t done yet.
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People do understand your pain. Most of us on here have been where you’re at. Before you do something stop and see if you can last one more day.
There seems to be two kinds of people in this life the users and the used. If you let them, people will use you until you are nothing more than a dirty torn rag bone heap on the floor.
Unfortunately people are selfish… They will not think of your feelings over their own self gratification. Even those who portray a sense of depth, they’re STILL thinking what they can get out of you.
IDK it seems to be human nature.
That’s why I live far away, where no one can bother me.
You have to get tough or get beaten. I stopped being ‘vulnerable’ a while ago. Now I look like the kinda girl you wouldn’t wanna mess with. It works… Most guys are scared of me… And the ones who aren’t!? Should be.
So, I am used. I don’t really care. They can bruise and beat me all they want.
What’s the point of living then? I am what I am. Is it my fault that others choose to too use what I have to give? They can’t beat me, I don’t feel vulnerable, just at some point I stopped feeling like letting them win bettered them… Does that make sense at all?
There is no point in living other than the one you give it. If others choose to use you there’s not much you can do about their choice, but it’s your choice to let them keep on doing it, or just marking limits, and if they don’t care about those, ditching them (the people who use you, not your limits).
There is nothing wrong in having something to give and giving it to others, but it’s also good to be wise about it and choosing what to give depending on who you give it to (sorry if that line doesn’t make sense, my english sucks at times). Regardless of common things here and there, yeah, not all people are the same (even if at times it looks like that).
Sure, but, I’m empty. Still, others attach to mine outlets and suck. I just don’t know if that is enough anymore. And as long as they suck, I am unable to show how empty I am. Ending things seems better than showing my emptiness. Ugh, then they would try to “help” me. Not in the way I need.
A friend (well, ex friend) told me once that the only way you are ever going to live in peace and without so many heartbreaks from people’s actions is to have no expectations. I don’t know if he was right at all (a lifetime of expecting nothing from people around you sounds awful), but it has helped me a bit on the long run.
I was remembered that because of your line “they would try to help me, not in the way i need”. Tbh, (in my opinion) you can’t expect that from anyone, specially if you don’t show them what you really need. Maybe they keep on taking because they just see you don’t need anything and that you are stronger than them and if they saw the opposite they would act different. Maybe they are just parasites and they will bleed you dry, who knows. The fact that you say they will try to help give a hint tho.
Not that anything i said is any solution or that i’m right, but sometimes our own view of the trees doesn’t allow us to see the forest.
Unfortunately we all have to be less trusting of people in this world. It’s a hard fact to deal with but it’s the best way to protect ourselves but that doesn’t mean we have to block everyone out. To be honest I think anyone knows the point of living. I suppose it depends what you believe in. You have to find your own point of living which I personally haven’t done yet.
I agree, but for me, its not about protecting, its more that no one seems to be able to offer me anything.
What are you looking to be offered?