I cut again. I promised myself I won’t but after 2 weeks I did it again. The cuts from then still haven’t healed fully that I re-opened them once more. I should stop, I know, I need to stop but how come is it that I can’t ?
You can’t stop because the compulsion is greater than your abilty to control it. This doesn’t mean you are wrong, or evil, or stupid, or worthless. You are going to have to forgive yourself for this because beating yourself up is only going to add to the pressure you already feel. This situation isn’t optimal but I’m telling you it’s OK! For today we are only going to worry about getting through today.
Is there something that happened in the last two days you want to talk about? Are you in some sort of crisis situation right now?
Even if there is no reason, you can still help yourself by not getting down on yourself if you cut. Cutting is a coping mechanism, just not a very useful one. A therapist can help you learn better coping skills.
Be patient with yourself. You have the capacity to change for the better.
Because you’re hurting. Most of us would agree that it’s a harmful way of trying to cope with the pain, but it’s also extremely hard to give up once you’ve started. You went two weeks without doing it, and that’s something to celebrate. Don’t feel bad that you’ve done it again.
Yesterday I had the urge to cut. I haven’t done it for a long, long time, but the urge has been there more often recently. I saw someone mention the Butterfly Project on SP recently, and I started looking it up last night. I found a site with people’s stories and photographs of butterflies. That’s something you could try. I decided I’d draw one if the urge becomes that strong again. I think it could be helpful for dissuading you from doing it and thinking positively about the times you *don’t* do it, rather than feeling bad about the times you do.
I know you’re in a lot of pain right now. I hope it gets easier soon.
You made it for two weeks. That’s something to be recognized. There will often be setbacks when trying to change your habits. When I quit smoking, I had a few setbacks along the way. I was upset with myself but I tried to remember that tomorrow was a new day.
Replacing the habit can be difficult but can help. Having someone to talk to, keeping a journal, going for a walk, etc. can help substitute something else for cutting. Going on SP can provide support in addition to being a distraction.
Two weeks is certainly an accomplishment. Keep moving forward and build on that.
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You can’t stop because the compulsion is greater than your abilty to control it. This doesn’t mean you are wrong, or evil, or stupid, or worthless. You are going to have to forgive yourself for this because beating yourself up is only going to add to the pressure you already feel. This situation isn’t optimal but I’m telling you it’s OK! For today we are only going to worry about getting through today.
Is there something that happened in the last two days you want to talk about? Are you in some sort of crisis situation right now?
Not really, that’s the problem. I just have this urge sometimes, without any causes or reasons.
OK. Just curious.
Even if there is no reason, you can still help yourself by not getting down on yourself if you cut. Cutting is a coping mechanism, just not a very useful one. A therapist can help you learn better coping skills.
Be patient with yourself. You have the capacity to change for the better.
Well Ninane 🙂
You still have so much life in you. Your life is just begun.
Do not run. Do not hide.
Try to fight your demons. Overcome winning.
Mind is very powerful tools. Control it.
Meditation could be helpful.
And in starting stage of depression…
A doctor’s advice could also be very helpful. Seek medical help.
Trust me. Fight it. You will come out victorious. Don’t let your demons hurt you.
And one more thing…
You are beautiful the way you are. 🙂
You don’t have to hide.
And certainly you don’t have to care for any individual opinion.
Thank you for taking the time 🙂
Because you’re hurting. Most of us would agree that it’s a harmful way of trying to cope with the pain, but it’s also extremely hard to give up once you’ve started. You went two weeks without doing it, and that’s something to celebrate. Don’t feel bad that you’ve done it again.
Yesterday I had the urge to cut. I haven’t done it for a long, long time, but the urge has been there more often recently. I saw someone mention the Butterfly Project on SP recently, and I started looking it up last night. I found a site with people’s stories and photographs of butterflies. That’s something you could try. I decided I’d draw one if the urge becomes that strong again. I think it could be helpful for dissuading you from doing it and thinking positively about the times you *don’t* do it, rather than feeling bad about the times you do.
I know you’re in a lot of pain right now. I hope it gets easier soon.
I will try to do this and see if it helps me. Thank you for your advice for the second time 🙂
I need to draw some butterflies on th ends of my fingers. I wonder how tiny I can get them.
You made it for two weeks. That’s something to be recognized. There will often be setbacks when trying to change your habits. When I quit smoking, I had a few setbacks along the way. I was upset with myself but I tried to remember that tomorrow was a new day.
Replacing the habit can be difficult but can help. Having someone to talk to, keeping a journal, going for a walk, etc. can help substitute something else for cutting. Going on SP can provide support in addition to being a distraction.
Two weeks is certainly an accomplishment. Keep moving forward and build on that.
I’ll do that, thank you :))