Have you ever thought that maybe if you do something for someone they will think to treat you the same way or do something similar to what you did, to you? I have! I thought that maybe if I treat everyone nicely and never let them get mad at me or not trust me then they would do the same, I thought that if i treated them good they would treat me good. Man was I wrong!
A few weeks, me and a friend in class got put together to work on a project. Over the weeks we worked slowly because we were never told a due date so we thought we had as much time as we needs. On Friday, our teacher told us that our project was due Monday, aka today. So we made plans to finish the project over the weekend. If any of you  have read a previous post of mine I think you’ll get where I’m going, I know Hazy Day Sunflower will 🙂 Anyways we decided to work on the project on Saturday Afternoon, but this partner of mine canceled last minute and didn’t get together with me any other time to finish, what a douche right? Well I finished the project solo and handed in today with just my name on it, because I did all the work. My partner told me that we were definitely gonna get an A with how awesome the project turned out. He saw that I only put my name on the project and asked what that was all about, I told him that I actually did the project by myself and he told me he was sleeping all day Saturday, and couldn’t fins his phone on Sunday.
I couldn’t believe that he couldn’t come up with a better lie. I know for a fact that he was out on Saturday because he was on one of my friends snap chats, he went to a party that night because I was there and saw him. I know that on Sunday he had his phone because he is trying to get with my “friend” and was texting her.
Turns out we did get an A on the project and it also turns out he told the teacher he forgot to put his name on it, so he got credit for shit he didn’t even do. Yay my life right?! Anyways the whole point to this rant on my douche of a best friend was that you need to stand up for yourself, I know it doesn’t sound like that was my point but that is what I chose. Also that sometimes just because you do something for someone doesn’t mean they will do the same for you. I wish I stood up to him and told him that he couldn’t put his name on the project or that I knew every word coming out of his mouth was a lie. I wish people would treat me how I treat them, because I treat everyone I know fairly well and I’m always trying to be nice. I hope everyone out there reading this or not stands up for themselves or for another. I hope that you get treated with love and kindness because that is what you deserve, nothing but positive friends and family and I hope you surround yourself with people that make you feel good.
One other thing I know everyone probably hears this all the time but You honestly don’t know what someone is going through and maybe they are treating you badly because someone is treating them badly, be a friend to someone who isn’t always nice to you maybe it is the wake up call they need, maybe they will realize how they are making you feel and change.
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I have learned in my short years that people love to make excuses. He didn’t have a phone all of Sunday? I’m calling BS. No one can live without that device . People love to take credit for other people’s things to. I actually had the same thing happen to me a couple of weeks ago. I’m sorry that happened. I hate doing a whole project by myself …
yeah i know right, really no phone? any living person can’t be without there phone if they have one for like 10 minutes. (hyperbole but you get my point.) im sorry you had to do the whole project yourself, hey maybe our next projects we could work together! now we know both sides will work! hahaha 🙂
do you know how you know some people are lying?
Their mouths are moving.
I like how you took the high ground in the end and ended on a positive note. Man I know this tail way too well. I have lost count the number of times I have bailed people out because not to do so would tank my whole existence. I need better relationships in my life.
Amen to that, i seriously need to find better people in my life. yeah and if i dont bail them out or let them take credit they just act like im the worst thing on the planet, but hey maybe they’re right, maybe i am. at least i know that i know how to help a friend in need.
well i consider myself old and i can tell you that no good deed goes unpunished , boy have got stories, although i am guilty of my own despair i just keep trying
i hope he gets what is coming for him. never stop trying, just keep swimming just keep swimming.
I hate this type of thing. I have had this happen so many times when I was studying my Computer and Telecommunications Network Engineering degree. I would often get 100% for my assignments and when it came time for group assignments I would get people fighting to be in a group with me, thinking it would be an easy 100% for them. Then obviously they would make no effort to do anything.
This made me hate working in a group and I’d often try to split the assignment into pieces and make each member responsible for their own piece. It was either this or just do the entire thing myself and pretend it was a group effort. The problem is that if I didn’t carry the load of others, we wouldn’t finish the assignment and I’d be accused by the instructor of not being able to work in a group environment. I have no problem working as part of a group when the other members are willing to put in their fair share of effort. I was lucky that the instructor could see what was happening and allowed me to be in my own group by myself for any further assignments.
Im glad the professor saw what was happening and allowed you to work on the assignments alone, but i feel that maybe the professor should assign groups or if not that assign certain parts once groups have been figured out. I hated just having one person not doing a thing I could never imagine what you did, that course/degree sounds really difficult and karma will nip them in the but if it already hasn’t. Since the people who “worked” with you never did anything I highly doubt they will make it through that course. Good luck with future projects I hope you find a group who will work along with you and not just use you! 🙂