I am so pissed…… So I talked to a cousin of mine that said no one is counting my ex husband having affair as a real one. Because it was just on the phone .
OH IM SO SORRY JUST BEACUSE HE DIDNT PUT HIS DICK IN HER IT DOESN’T COUNT . MY FUCKING BAD LET ME RUN BACK TO HIM NOW!!!!!
At work I ran into my cousin a different one. She keeps asking my I don’t ever just call my ex we were married for almost three years. OH WAIT FOR IT ” KUPO IF YOU THINK HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU AGAIN HE WON’T.”
***** shut the fuck up you have never been in a relationship longer then four months.
And to top it off my sister told me that a girl I grew up with a close friend . but my ex’s cousin which don’t matter because we were colser at least I thought.
My ex brother in law got married last month no big deal I was happy for him ….but this so called friend …..said that this girl has done more then I ever did in almost three years of marriage . and I had never loved her cousin and I was fake and full of hate.
My sister got mad and said how could you say that you know kupo is just not very lovey dovey and has a hard time expressing emotion. The girl reply was just no she never cared .
HOW THE FUCK CAN I NOT LOVE HIM OR CARE WE WERE TOGETHER FOR ALMOST FIVE YEARS REALLY .
My sister also told me my ex said . If I walk in right now with a hundred thousand dollars in my right hand and the keys to a brand new Mercedes and a arptment . he would not get me back because for my health .
SUCH KIND WORDS MAKE MY HEART FUCKING MELT .WHEN YOU GAVE TWO SHITS ABOUT MY HEALTH WHEN I WAS CRYING EVERY SINGLE NIGHT . WHEN I TOLD YOU I WAS CUTTING MY SELF ,FROM YOUR FAMILY AS A CRY FOR YOU HELP BECUASE ASKING MOTHER FUCKING DIRECTLY DOSE NOT WORK . AND THEN YOU TOLD THE WHOLE WORLD SO YOU ALL CAN SAY I WAS SUICIDAL IT WAS GONNA NEVER WORK OUT .
then it hit me they made me think I was this worthless heartless monster and I truly bleived it three years hearing the same thing over again every day how can you not .
Now they have the whole world seeing me as a heartless worthless SUICIDAL monster . and it what I believe too.
How can I move on I can’t change not really . I can fake it but how long can I do that. I really just want to kill myself there making it hard to move see hope .
I AM NOT IN THE SAME STATE AS THESE PEOPLE AND THEY STILL HAVE SO MUCH CONTROL.
I cried today because everybody I know is taking there side and I’m just heartless and my fault . which it is I was too weak and naive .
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Pick up the phone and tell them to stay out your business and whatever else is on your mind. They want to stick their nose in your business then they get to hear what you have to say about their opinion. Why is your family acting like nosy neighbors anyway, its irritating the shit out of me and I’m not even involved. That has got to stop and please for the sake of your sanity stop feeling like your wrong because your not. Its a mental mind fuckery created all out of gossip and they’re provoking you by having you blame yourself. And then they go on pardoning his betrayal like its their right to do so, wtf? You were his wife your say is the only one that matters. It could have been worse but you nipped it in the bud which is a smart move on your part
Romantic or sexual interactions via phone/online chat rooms or message boards/video calls/emails/texting/letters/free or paid cybersex, phone sex and web cam girls, etc… doesn’t matter, it’s all cheating if you’ve already agreed to a “monogamous relationship” with someone else.
(Occasionally viewing impersonal porn without speaking to/being involved with the person/people depicted in the images or acting in the videos, and without knowing them personally, is harmless IMO, though it depends on the couple and what they feel is ok.)
You could even initially meet somebody over the phone or online and agree to a “monogamous relationship” despite not being in the same room, and you have to respect that by telling others that you’re unavailable “I have an online or long-distance p.artner,” and by not leading anyone on.
So yeah, any time you start an “romantically emotional, or sexual affair or interaction” when you told someone else you had committed to them alone… it’s cheating, and deceitful, etc.
I would stay away from the ex husband. You deserve better, and your family are idiots. Avoid them as much as possible.
* I should say “flirtatious” too. If I respect my p.artner and what we share, when I have one, I won’t lead anyone else on by implying interest in them through flirting and trying to get to know them in a way that might give them the wrong idea. There might not be any “romance” or “emotion” about it if you casually flirt with people, but avoiding that when in a relationship is the decent thing to do. So yeah, flirty friends are out if you’ve committed to someone else, and don’t want to cheat.
Are you no-one? Because you seem to count it as an affair, and that’s the only opinion that matters in this case. It’s your relationship; your life to live, according to your own heart and mind. Not that of anyone else. Were they in your shoes, perhaps they’d make different choices, but they’re not. They’re your shoes, so don’t lend them out to witless bystanders. They might have athlete’s foot or something.