Hello. What prompts a person to fall in love? Why do people do it? I know why from a social scientific point. I know why from a biological point. But why do people fall in love? Biologically, all animals have a need to reproduce. Mammals need two to tango, if you understand my meaning. Right now though, with the human population being around 7 billion, I think people have less of an urge to do that. Most people have opted out of having kids now a days, what with money and such. Then there is for survival. Societies form because individuals see a greater chance for survival if they form large groups. This is also the case for smaller pairs, relationships. Housing, food, transportation, water, all the stupid little trinkets we want. All of that is easier to obtain when we have another working with us. Mind you people often tend to break relationships over such things. Money is the root of all evil after all. Another aspect of survival is sanity. People feel the need for another’s attention and affection. They need another mind to occupy theirs. Other wise they go mad. But at the very base of it all, why do people fall in love? What compels a person to deem another suitable for their love? Why do people fall out of love? Is it possible to teach someone to detach themselves from this emotion? Is the individual just a slave to their base desires? I often think about this. I often wonder if I have ever experienced true love. How would I know what that feels like? When ever you ask this stereotypical question you always get the stereotypical answers. It’s that feeling in your stomach that keeps you from moving. Your head begins to feel fuzzy around your desire. You lose focus of everything else. These are all shallow answers. They don’t answer the very deep meanings of it. I for one view love, or whatever it is that I’ve experience, as a disease. A sickness that strangles your brain. An unwanted distraction that seems to always creep up on you. A weed that takes control away from you and makes you feel pain that you never asked for. Time and reality seem to be the only medicines. Time to get over what ever sicking feelings you have and reality to show you the true nature of people. Maybe I’m just some stupid kid who has no idea what he’s talking about. Maybe I’m just some scared, sad, selfish human being that is angry that he’s never had those feelings reciprocated. I don’t know. All I know is that I don’t like this feeling. Thanks for listening.
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What kind of question is that? It’s like asking why don’t people just want to be alone with themselves forever?
Because life is shit and you want someone to help you through it and comfort you.
What is love?
Oh god, now someone’s going to start singing.
I actually wrote a song named “What is love”
Okay now I have to sing it
We need human interaction we are a social species, of course every one has different levels of socialization. Love is a selfish thing sometimes you love someone for caring for you and some people feel the need to express feelings of care for another person. Love comforts people, when someone loves you, you feel accepted, wanted, needed, cared for. A bond develops and its chemicals and its seeing someone else care about you the way you care for yourself. It doesn’t always last and there can be so many reasons why. I don’t think that I have ever been loved relationship wise at least not truly. I honestly don’t ever think I will be and it doesn’t bother me anymore. Once your heart has truly been broken from being in love it doesn’t heal back right. I don’t want anyone to love me because quite honestly I don’t think I can honestly love anyone. Not sure if this even helped I’m reading it to myself and it sounds like ridiculous rambling.
Perhaps you should try to distinguish the desire to be love and love itself. It only leads to pain to let infatuation run wild.
I will leave you with a suggestion that I struggle to live by, and I try to live by every day now. Look at every person with love, and let your judgments of them wash over you until you can see their intrinsic value. Some aren’t worthy of it, hell most aren’t, but like you said love is selfish. It benefits you most to not let your soul run bitter and black.