I really hate people. They find it necessary in every relationship, platonic or otherwise, to create issues. I have a very close friend, who has been my confidante, and vice versa. While I’ve deeply liked him for quite a while I have a concept of boundaries and haven’t let on, it’s entirely platonic but his gf and her friends all think I’m a ***** and have made that very clear. But I thought that could be fine, and that as long as we truly were just friends it would be fine. Well jokes on fucking me because that obviously couldn’t work out, obviously this person couldn’t just remain my really close and supportive friend, in a way that i’ve never had someone be for me before him. Rather he finds it to be a good idea to tell me that he likes me and that he’d like to date me? but is still dating his gf. This is after him for several weeks describing in great detail his dates to me, kissing included. This is a bit confusing I’d agree. Then the next day out of nowhere, after having not texted all day he sends me a picture of them kissing? I don’t understand at all why he would do either these things. Strangely its not the first time I’ve been told I’m someones second choice, and I’m so fucking sick and tired of being an afterthought. Im so tired of not being anyones first choice, of not being good enough for anyone to pick me, and then fucking slaming it in my face. I fail to see what could possibly be the action behind either of these things and Im really sick of everyone i care about the most from my dad to my friends not thinking I’m good enough to be their first choice.
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I’ve not only been in your shoes…. I’m there now, multiple times over….
It sucks right? All these women i adore… yet they don’t see me……
Do you see how inherently full you are though? If you’re like me… you have so much to give… yet those don’t see it….
Just trust me… you’re here, worth everything they don’t see… i know it, bc I’m it too
I am trying to understand you but I am having a hard time.
Are you actually interested in dating him? If not, where does this idea of being a second choice comes from?
Obviously, the girlfriend and her friends will say such things because they’re trying to hurt you in order to put some distance between you too.
It is my opinion that a male / female friendship is usually more intimate -emotionally at least- than a typical relationship. People will usually ignore it because they don’t know how to deal with it and it fills them with fear.
I wouldn’t be able to tell how serious he was about dating you but the moment he said that he put himself in a vulnerable position so, what better way to hide than send you a picture of them kissing? And, can you even say for sure that it wasn’t the girl using his phone to do so?
Sort yourself out, define for yourself what you expect from your relationships and demand it.
I know this will probably sound very backwards
but love
I honestly believe boy-girl close friendships just don’t work
either one or both individuals reach a point where they can’t control their emotions / instincts anymore
I’m really sorry to say that to you 🙁
but honey I think you could learn from this that only a girl could be your best / close friend
a boy, no matter how good & noble he is, will mess the relationship up
either from his side or yours
about his behavior
he’s obviously confused
he has lost control of his desires
& don’t know what / who he wants anymore
so, in my modest opinion… love, I think this friendship is over
can you accept that, honey?
can u move on?
& love I don’t think
that there’s some sort of “curse”
that’s always making you second choice
it’s just that you haven’t found the right person yet
that’s all 🙂
I say
take care of the people you love
your father, your friends
regardless of how they repay that love…
make ur care & love towards them unconditional
& somewhere along the line
some day from now
you will meet someone who holds you in first place in his heart
okay honey
if you wish to talk any time, any day
I’m here for you
just incase
my email is
farahlajeennouraldeen.1
@gmail
pleas know that you’re most most welcome to contact me any time you wish
okay 🙂
tc
& please don’t do anything dark love
nothing & no one is ever worth ending your life over
okay <3