Ok, I’ll start.
1. “Hi, How are you?” – No one really cares how you are; the only acceptable answers are “good”, “ok” or “fine.” If you actually answer the question, people look at you funny, get awkward, and tries to skip to something else. So, then why do you ask? Just required/expected things that people are “supposed” to say when they greet each other.
2. [insert phrase here] – what are the things people say that they don’t mean that irk you?
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Ugh I hate when people ask how I am.. Like it’s just ingrained into everyones brain to ask it.. But no one actually cares how you are.
I hate when people say a bunch of positive quotes, and give useless encouragement. Like that one quote, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade.. But what if I don’t have the other ingredients to make damn lemonade? Not everyone is lucky, not everyone can make something out of something meager.
I’m so sick of forcing myself to say “I’m good” because like you said, once you say “I feel like a piece of shit” people act like you’ve just threatened to stab them and back away slowly.
I hate being asked how I am, there have been so many times that I replied “fine” or bashed it wax with something like “tired” at moments when I felt so awful. And I am sure many more are waiting for me in the future.
I wish society would accept feelings more and allowed people to feel bad too and express their emotion, instead living in fake happiness just to please others.
Agreed.
I ask people “how are you doing?” because I genuinely do want to hear their answer. If they robotically reply “Fine” or “Good” without saying anything else, it can be somewhat disappointing because I did care enough to ask.
“Your call is important to us, so please remain on the line and it will be answered in the order it was received, or next Tuesday, whichever comes first.”
Or until you give up and hang up, which is their intent and desired outcome.
I find it bothersome and like a punch to the gut when people come out with “I’ll be here for you no matter what” / “you can tell me anything, it’s okay” — turns out when you’re stuck in the dark they are the first out the door.. I had a friend do this to me once, constantly lied about having my back and in the end fled.
He did admit to lying in the end, so I guess that’s one thing I admire about him..
“you can tell me anything”
Yeah, that one usually comes back to bite you in the butt.
A lot of times, people say things to feel better about themselves. It makes them feel special to imagine themselves being the brave, resilient hero who rescues those they care about.
These are however words that merely fit in with a perception of themselves they want to maintain. They are words said for their benefit, not yours. Being reliable is truly becoming a rare quality, I feel. I know I myself need to observe others’ actions for a lot longer before I should begin to trust their words.
But yes, your friend owning up to what he did is rather remarkable, and as they say, better than nothing. Hopefully it lead to some self-reflection and adjustments in his future behavior.
I do hate when people ask how I am, I hold it together very well when I’m around people, but no one is really going to want to invest any time or effort into my personal problems. And I don’t expect them to, so idk. I guess the old “How are you?” “I’m good, how bout you?” is just a good conversation starter, for small talk maybe.
‘have a nice day’…. Pffff